Attempting to avoid rejection is what ends up creating the rejection.

Many of our patterns of behaviour in our close adult relationships stem from how we learnt to navigate through our family dynamics growing up.
We often learn to adapt and adjust ourselves to fit in with our family, to make the most of our situation and to try to receive as much love or be in the way of as little harm/neglect as possible.
When we continue these adaptations and unconscious protective patterns as adults, they end up being the very things that are our part in indirectly creating the rejection/abandonment we are so desperately trying to avoid.

It’s so important to learn to see what patterns we have, so we can own them and update ourselves, our perceptions and our choices.