A conscious, equal relationship, where there is no ‘clingy unstable one’ and no ‘strong one’, will strip us of our ability to operate on that familiar kind of ground, through these unconscious roles/senses of identity.
When our partner won’t be our strength for us, our saviour/rescuer, or our partner doesn’t ‘need’ us and we don’t get something out of being the strong one, how do we know they/we will want to stick around?
Equality in relationship is so beautiful, so delicious; all that we really want, and yet it also shines a light on our insecurities, traumas and fears. It shows us where we worry we’ll be abandoned, inadequate, a burden, unloveable and rejected.
It takes a lot of courage and commitment to work with ourselves and together, to stay open, to share and receive each other in deep intimacy. But oh how beautiful is a life lived with such love.
What a gift we give when we truly show up.
RATNA DYER 