In approaching our relationship with abundance and money, yes it’s important to live within our means and be realistic, and yet abundance is not just about money. Abundance is about how we receive life. How connected and aware we are in each moment with the myriad life forms unfolding and vibrating all around us.
Life force itself knows no lack. It is the energy of abundance constantly expressing itself.
What do we choose to focus on? What we want but do not have, or the overflowing expression of life within which we breathe?
If someone appears to have everything sorted, always be happy, not have to contend with the ups and downs of life, this to me seems somewhat unreal, inauthentic. Either we are projecting our ideal onto them or they are putting up a front, only showing the good stuff, or avoiding their emotional landscape through suppression, repression or escapism.
It is not possible to be human and not have difficult emotions.
No matter how much peace and calm we might in time come to find on our journey, it is not without having deeply allowed and been with all range of emotional experiences.
To be free is to be able to see and include all aspects of oneself without judgement, aversion or grasping.
One of the best things we can do for others is to be genuinely happy in ourselves. This frees us to be truly loving and contributes to life and relationships having a good feeling.
A puppy doesn’t sit there with an idea of itself and who it is. It doesn’t have a psychologically created version of self. It’s not thinking maybe who I am is not wanted on the inside of this fence.
It is through these kind of self concepts and ideas we have, where a part of our mind talks to itself about itself, that we generate and feel more and more separated.
We form a reality of ourselves through our self perceptions… that we are not good enough, or superior, or too intense, too needy, too this or not enough that, what will people think of me, will I be rejected etc etc etc.
An invaluable form of self inquiry is to look into this more deeply.. who is the ‘I’ that my thoughts are referring to? A puppy still exists without having an idea of ‘I’. In fact it is even more clearly itself without this psychological layer and process being there.
When we begin to return home to the reality of who we are, we learn to see this psychological layer playing out, and we know it has nothing to do with our true nature. We feel ourselves as the awareness and being prior to it. And over time, in believing and feeding the psychological self less, it reduces and ultimately dissolves.
Are we then gone? Or are we simply free to enjoy just being ourselves like a puppy?!
Even when things are painful or challenging, they are here to set us free. (Don’t misconstrue this and apply it to rationalising staying in an abusive relationship, or minimising valid, basic needs).
There is sometimes a fierceness to grace and how we can be forced or squeezed through a process that has the potential to shed us of our crap, our hurt and the untruth we no longer need.
Often this shedding process feels like the pain is getting worse, because it has to come up to be seen in order to be worked with and released. But to stay present to our experience means it can burn itself out and release the grip it has on us. Lightening our bonds and bringing liberation.
There is an opportunity, an inner choice; to run/avoid or to stay the course with ourselves, and to trust in the longer vision of who we are becoming.. and to in time receive and rejoice in the gift of growth and release.
The divine design is to open our heart, not to make us suffer.
Live guided meditation was held tonight on Instagram @ratnadyer. Available there for replay anytime. Blessings and love to all. May we all come into our heart center. Arohanui.
How much time and energy to you put toward doing what makes you happy?
What can you do more of in your average day to connect with your real self, your inner being, your peace and happiness?
Sometimes this inner connection means we find we first need to feel emotions that are far from happy, and so it feels worse. However a deeper and more lasting happiness comes the more we do this, as with self connection, self understanding, consciousness and care, we come into the truth of who we are.
RATNA DYER 