When I anchor down deep within myself, where do I find stability?
We grow as babies and children with our parents ideally providing an external stabilising center.
We internalise a sense of self/lack of self and security/lack of security through our relationship with our parents and family of origin.
We take this with us into life as adults and we continue seeking security and stability. Sometimes finding some and sometimes not.
When we have come to the point in our life where we realise it is up to us, and we have to take responsibility for how we walk in this world, to pick up the pieces when things have broken open, to look deeply at ourselves…where do we find our deep clarity and knowing?
We gain help through teachers, therapists, wisdom figures, and yet at the end of the day our connection to knowing can only be experienced within and for it to be reliable it requires a commitment to ourselves and a return to consistent intentional practice.
Stability is in the quiet places inside.
It is through learning to stop, recognise safety and create the conscious space where we are able to see, name, allow and be with our inner turmoil, our emotions, our mental noise, our conditioned expectations, our false self and our fears.
We can learn to practice not running from our stuff, to let these parts of us be seen,express and move through until silence comes and we can find rest in simple open fearless being.
Here stability is always there and was there all along. Underlying every experience. The blank canvas underlying and holding every colour, every brush stroke of life.
We find we are stable as part of the mystery, the unknown, the silence, the peace that is beyond our mind’s understanding and we are always within grace.
RATNA DYER 