Author: ratnadyer

Perhaps one of the greatest successes is being able to compassionately allow the feeling and experience of failure to be there and yet not to be judging, resistant or trapped inside it.

Faith is a letting go of knowing, a willingness to relinquish control, not a fixing of the truth into ideas that gives us a false security.

Faith is a living, breathing verb, alive to life’s unfolding. It is not an object we can own.

Paradoxically, it is a moving toward and a being with something that allows it to move through and be released.

It’s already there, whether we want it to be or not. So acknowledging it and being with it is part of the energy of surrendering.

When we try to make something gone before allowing it, we are resisting it; we are in opposition to it. Letting go can’t happen when we are putting our energy into holding it out.

How much do we let our fear define our reality?

In approaching our relationship with abundance and money, yes it’s important to live within our means and be realistic, and yet abundance is not just about money. Abundance is about how we receive life. How connected and aware we are in each moment with the myriad life forms unfolding and vibrating all around us.

Life force itself knows no lack. It is the energy of abundance constantly expressing itself.

What do we choose to focus on? What we want but do not have, or the overflowing expression of life within which we breathe?

If someone appears to have everything sorted, always be happy, not have to contend with the ups and downs of life, this to me seems somewhat unreal, inauthentic.
Either we are projecting our ideal onto them or they are putting up a front, only showing the good stuff, or avoiding their emotional landscape through suppression, repression or escapism.

It is not possible to be human and not have difficult emotions.

No matter how much peace and calm we might in time come to find on our journey, it is not without having deeply allowed and been with all range of emotional experiences.

To be free is to be able to see and include all aspects of oneself without judgement, aversion or grasping.

One of the best things we can do for others is to be genuinely happy in ourselves. This frees us to be truly loving and contributes to life and relationships having a good feeling.

A puppy doesn’t sit there with an idea of itself and who it is. It doesn’t have a psychologically created version of self. It’s not thinking maybe who I am is not wanted on the inside of this fence.

It is through these kind of self concepts and ideas we have, where a part of our mind talks to itself about itself, that we generate and feel more and more separated.

We form a reality of ourselves through our self perceptions… that we are not good enough, or superior, or too intense, too needy, too this or not enough that, what will people think of me, will I be rejected etc etc etc.

An invaluable form of self inquiry is to look into this more deeply.. who is the ‘I’ that my thoughts are referring to? A puppy still exists without having an idea of ‘I’. In fact it is even more clearly itself without this psychological layer and process being there.

When we begin to return home to the reality of who we are, we learn to see this psychological layer playing out, and we know it has nothing to do with our true nature. We feel ourselves as the awareness and being prior to it. And over time, in believing and feeding the psychological self less, it reduces and ultimately dissolves.

Are we then gone? Or are we simply free to enjoy just being ourselves like a puppy?!

Even when things are painful or challenging, they are here to set us free.
(Don’t misconstrue this and apply it to rationalising staying in an abusive relationship, or minimising valid, basic needs).

There is sometimes a fierceness to grace and how we can be forced or squeezed through a process that has the potential to shed us of our crap, our hurt and the untruth we no longer need.

Often this shedding process feels like the pain is getting worse, because it has to come up to be seen in order to be worked with and released. But to stay present to our experience means it can burn itself out and release the grip it has on us. Lightening our bonds and bringing liberation.

There is an opportunity, an inner choice; to run/avoid or to stay the course with ourselves, and to trust in the longer vision of who we are becoming.. and to in time receive and rejoice in the gift of growth and release.

The divine design is to open our heart, not to make us suffer.

Slow down. Stop. No matter how much we control things, it will not bring an end to the pattern of stress.

F eel the feelings.
A llow their expression in your body.
T rust you can survive them.
E xpand.