When we have done the work to look with thorough self honesty at our patterns in relationship and make the inner changes we need to take responsibility for, only then are we able to share a truely intimate connection.
Here there is clarity that: I would rather be on my own than in a co-dependent or disconnected relationship.
Do your work. The purpose of life is love. To be as loving as you can. To release that which blocks the flow of your ability to give, receive and be love.
Sometimes learning to love means allowing more space, sometimes it means being willing to come closer.
Sometimes it means learning to be clearer with your truth and say no. Sometimes it means learning to apologise, be humble and release your pride and fixed views.
Whichever direction it needs to move in, we are all moving toward more balance, more love.