It’s often easier to focus on others having issues than it is to acknowledge our own reaction and take responsibility for our experience.
It’s not until we do this that we can be truly available for close connection and consciously heart centered relationships.
Learn to investigate inside when you feel discomfort, it is a helpful indicator that something is going on inside us that needs awareness and non judgemental attention.
Does the feeling subconsciously remind you of something/someone from your own past? Does it bring up helplessness or connect with your own experience of suffering in some way? Do you avoid that in yourself?
Jumping to solutions often skips over compassion.