Author: ratnadyer

Love helps us find balance and release.

There are parts of all of us that we find hard, that we can feel like we need to get rid of, change or fix.
Parts of us that we might have been conditioned into thinking are unacceptable, unwanted, or not loveable.

Social conditioning is important to help us operate in society with care and awareness of others. And at the same time it has a way of kind of teaching us to judge aspects of our human experience and often to learn to repress or suppress our struggle or our difficult feelings.

Finding emotional wellbeing involves being willing and aware to show care, compassion and support to the feeling parts inside us as they arise. Not to avoid, judge, oppose or deny them, or to see them as problems to be fixed.

Being kind with ourselves is so important.

We all judge things and other people. Judging, measuring and comparison are all simply a part of how the mind functions to keep us safe and to make sense of our physical reality.

It’s not that judging is wrong per se. It’s more about how conscious we are about it, and what we do with our judgements.

When we judge ourselves for judging, this just keeps us where we are. It is just more of the same.

Instead bring in kindness and patience with your mind and then take responsibility; acknowledge what you would like to change, be kind to yourself around it, and put action and awareness behind supporting yourself to make an improved choice next time.

Sometimes all we need to do is mindfully see our judging thought. Just name it: there is a judging thought. And decide not pick it up or give it any further juice, power or attention.

People looking for a miracle overlook the miracle of life everywhere all the time.

Nothing, not even the slightest exhale of emotion, is not worthy of love.

No expression of human experience needs be dismissed as unwanted or unspiritual when we are learning to be present, heart centered, compassionate beings.

To find our true happiness and inner peace, we must listen to our inner experience and notice where we unconsciously/almost automatically push some parts of their process away.

And when we do go toward our challenging feelings, we need to practise discerning where the balance is between compassionate allowing inclusion, and where we might be re-striking the wheel of thoughts that keep us entrenched, identified, stuck and victimised.

In the end (and from the beginning) all that remains is loving awareness.

In learning to listen, we need to be present moment by moment with our senses to life all around us, or to what a person is saying. We need to release the layer of thoughts we are having about everything and to not be already caught up in our mind with what we are going to say.

We are more than any thought or conceptual idea. Who we think we are is only a movement of thought happening in the mind.
We are prior to thought. We can observe thought. Our being is unchanged, constant, present regardless of different thoughts coming and going. Be aware and alive to this level of experience. Become aware of your self as awareness, beyond thought.

This moment is where our life is.
This moment is the only moment where life is. Ever.
Plan for the future, and yet endeavour to stay grounded in, and enjoy ourself with integrity in the now.

It’s often easier to focus on others having issues than it is to acknowledge our own reaction and take responsibility for our experience.

It’s not until we do this that we can be truly available for close connection and consciously heart centered relationships.

Learn to investigate inside when you feel discomfort, it is a helpful indicator that something is going on inside us that needs awareness and non judgemental attention.

Does the feeling subconsciously remind you of something/someone from your own past? Does it bring up helplessness or connect with your own experience of suffering in some way? Do you avoid that in yourself?

Jumping to solutions often skips over compassion.

Our breath is always there for us. It is our anchor, our haven, our most powerful regulating tool.
When we practice being with the breath, we can come home, we can rest, we can let go into presence.

A simple, yet very powerful breathing exercise is to breath in (through the nose) for the count of seven, hold for seven, breath out (through the mouth) for seven, hold for seven before breathing in again. Do this for seven rounds. It will change your state. It is good throughout this, to keep the tongue on the roof of your mouth.