Author: ratnadyer

Therapist: Psychosynthesis Counsellor MNZAC. Student of spirituality. Yoga practitioner. Mother.

Protecting yourself from disconnection often forms as a disconnection itself.We can’t totally irradicate anything from our experience without disconnecting from ourselves in the process.

by ratnadyer

Be aware of your protective mechanisms. If we are unconscious to them, they can end up generating the very thing we are trying not to have.
For example if we’re trying to avoid rejection or loss, with our protective mechanisms we might (consciously or unconsciously) not let people fully in. Then with time they end up stepping back from a relationship with us, because they don’t feel the connectedness and closeness they need. The loss and rejection is fulfilled.
A tricky pattern to get out of.
The first step is to raise our awareness around our patterns and underlying fears.

Arrogance is a symptom of inferiority.

by ratnadyer

When we can look past the hard shell; the seeming assured harshness or arrogance of someone, we might begin to connect with understanding the reason why they have formed it or feel they need it.
Don’t always be convinced by the persona people show to the world, there is almost always deeper stuff going on.

It’s all about connection.

by ratnadyer

In the end we realise everything meaningful in our life is all about connection.
Connection with Self.
Connection with others.
Connection with life.
Connection with purpose.
Connection with love.
Connection with awareness.
Connection with trust.
Connection with commitment.
Connection through communication.
Connection with truth.

Every connection we experience, we experience through/within our Self.
We can’t experience if our sense of I Am is not present first.

How much do our choices bring more connection and how much do they generate a kind of disconnection?
This is important to look at and take responsibility for within our relationship with life and our interpretations.

The more commitment you have the more you will enjoy a meaningful life.

by ratnadyer

The energy of commitment is fundamental within fulfilling our intentions, understanding ourselves and being able to contribute to humanity.

We can raise our level of commitment in various ways:
-practice being in our five senses and our somatic (body sensation) awareness
-practice conscious breathing.
-eat, sleep, rest, exercise; respect our physical body as the house of our spirit.
-make a schedule/timetable.
-raise our level of self awareness.
-practice to STOP and observe and reflect inwardly when we are triggered.
-practice mindfulness meditation.
-do creative things.
-become clear on what fears and belief systems we are learning to release inside us and how we might be able to give back to life.