Author: ratnadyer

Don’t use a spiritual aspiration to measure yourself against.
If we are not feeling present and appreciative, it doesn’t mean we aren’t still on our path. We are just at that point feeling the other side of experience.

The universe has us experience both sides of the coin in our human journey, to assist us in our expansion of consciousness.

Everything in the end is to help us orientate to our highest growth.

Ask.
Listen.
Care.
Open.
Consider.
Be humble and vulnerable.
Be kind.
Allow not knowing.
Call, talk, converse. Don’t hide behind a screen or messaging.
Don’t think your way of seeing it is the way it is for the other person.
Notice when you close.
Notice when you get defensive.
Notice how attached you are to your views and ideas.
Check if you could be judging yourself and unconsciously protecting yourself from that.
Notice if you need to be the one in control.
The shaky ground outside of our comfort zone is often where we can meet each other anew and more deeply.

When we love someone, their happiness is our happiness, their sadness is our sadness.

May we all come into clarity of being, of presence, of grace, of loving awareness.

Letting go is often painful, but it is more painful, just in a slower and withering kind of way, to hold on and on; caught in thoughts of a ghost from the past or what might be/might have been.

“What would love have me do?” – Jack Kornfield.

Also.. discern what is a true need, not necessarily just what a person might want. Sometimes the true need is for them to hear our no, our authentic boundary, not just us doing what keeps them happy or a conflict away.

Love has to include an honouring of ourselves and our honest response.

Whatever it is that we’re feeling, it’s okay.
However we are right now, it’s okay.
However we want things to be, it’s okay.
However we hope life will turn out, it’s okay.

Our essential being remains untouched by all concepts, ideas, memories and identities.