“What would love have me do?” – Jack Kornfield.
Also.. discern what is a true need, not necessarily just what a person might want. Sometimes the true need is for them to hear our no, our authentic boundary, not just us doing what keeps them happy or a conflict away.
Love has to include an honouring of ourselves and our honest response.
Whatever it is that we’re feeling, it’s okay.
However we are right now, it’s okay.
However we want things to be, it’s okay.
However we hope life will turn out, it’s okay.
Our essential being remains untouched by all concepts, ideas, memories and identities.
Our will is always engaged somewhere.
It doesn’t matter what we believe, if there’s no kindness there’s no truth.
Our thoughts are not reality, they are just thoughts. They differ from person to person and hold no innate stability.
Thoughts so easily create a kind of film over reality, which often separates us from truth, from ourselves and our sense of connectedness with life.
Becoming aware of what is our mind; thoughts formed into a way of seeing and believing,
and what is grounded in truth; reality, senses, presence and right view beyond mind, is the quintessential process of spiritual awakening.
What we give our attention to is getting all the attention. What we focus on becomes the focus.
Are we giving attention to what we want or what we don’t want?
Are we focusing on our fear or on our growth?
I for one know it’s oftentimes really hard being human. It’s challenging and tiring and at times heartbreaking.
But we always have kindness. We can always bring kindness and goodness of being alongside all we know.
Life is beautiful because of this.
RATNA DYER 