Author: ratnadyer

Present moment awareness becomes an effortless kind of noticing when we realise it is one with who/what we are.

We are this moment recognising itself.

There are many relative truths that we latch onto and believe to be ‘the truth’. Then when someone else has a different way of thinking, we so often create (subtlety or strongly) a divide, an argument or a disconnect.

Truth is a unifying force and reality. Division is the opposite direction.

Absolute truth is beyond mind. It consists of no thoughts, concepts, beliefs or anything to defend. It simply is, always present and unspoken.

No matter what thoughts, ideas and beliefs we have, no matter what approaches we take, wars we fight and shenanigans we make, absolute truth is unconditionally loving, untouched and eternal.

We often think of freedom as having freedom from things, or not having restrictions on our choices.

Yes we all want to have good life experiences of course, and yet freedom which is true and deeply complete however, is when we are capable of being with whatever arises within us without needing to resist or run from our experience. Whether it is comfortable, preferable or not.

And let’s face it, our human journey is not always fun, it can be painful and immensely challenging at times. And in the end we die, which we have no choice around whatsoever.

True freedom is not granted through circumstances being the way we want, but rather through being able to respond to life’s limitations and our challenging feelings consciously, with love and with wisdom as our core.

When we are free inwardly it can never be taken from us.

When working inwardly with ourselves we start to recognise that it is our relationship with things that creates our experience, not actually the things themselves.

Be it an emotion we don’t want to feel or a chore we don’t want to do, the more we resist, judge or try to avoid it, the more we struggle and the more we suffer.

Compassionate allowing creates space and freedom. It doesn’t mean you have to like it, but within a bit more acceptance you can begin to feel more peace; self acceptance with how you feel and acceptance of life’s challenges.

Of course working to be more compassionately allowing and accepting is never the case when we are experiencing abuse or clear disrespect. In these situations, the learning is always to value ourselves more by clearly saying no and likely by stepping aside.

It’s easy to project our ideals of strength onto someone who seems to hold all the presentations of it that we admire. But more often than not, it’s not the complete picture.
We don’t usually get to know that person with their private moments, their deeper fears and vulnerability.

We all need connection, support and honesty. No matter how strong we are, we can’t live our life without others.

No one is free from human need, human suffering and human vulnerability.

We all have the same ingredients in our heart.

Sometimes we need to re-evaluate our expectations, sometimes we need to stand our ground on what we know is healthy, healing and possible.

When you’re angry or frustrated, let yourself feel it, allow and acknowledge it in a healthy way. Identify any thoughts or narrative that keep feeding it and let them drop. Then look deeper. What feeling might be lying underneath?

So often anger is a more surface layer emotion and the key to releasing it more successfully sometimes comes with being willing and safe enough to be with other feelings it might be trying to protect us from having.

Being willing to be deeply alone and to lean into the layers of feeling we might have around this, until only space remains… is a doorway to freedom and an inner connectedness with all of life.

Often we resist our aloneness, like it’s a problem we need to avoid. We can run our whole lives from it.

Surrendering is a blessed relief.

We can’t let go or change something unless we know clearly what it actually is.
Unless we look at the root cause for our stuff, we will not have a lot of luck in sustaining real change. Will power alone is not enough.