Author: ratnadyer

You are not responsible for your partner’s triggers. And your partner, nor anyone else, is not responsible for yours.

Each of us as adults, are responsible for our own triggers.

We need to learn to differentiate between what is present reality and when we are unconsciously receiving our experience through our past experiences in a triggered way.

We can learn to be sensitive, caring and understanding about what might trigger others in our relationships, but at the end of the day, if they get triggered, it is because that trigger was already there inside them.
It is their responsibility.

We are each responsible for our own conduct, not anyone else’s.

Commitment provides a path to freedom.

The more committed you are, the more ease comes.

The knowing that we are, is not caught inside our reactions.

It might feel like that when we are stressed, as everything seems to collapse into itself, but we can learn to step back and be an observer to our selves. We can create inner space filled with grace. This is the essential principle of mindfulness.

We are more than any reaction or behaviour we might have.

Acceptance cultivates contentment.

Yes have goals, strive for the stars, and yet live in the present with acceptance.

Sometimes people can use notions like self love, just ‘be yourself’ and self care etc to justify their bad behaviour.

Being ourself is not losing ourself in a fit of anger, judgment, addictive or destructive behaviour.

Being ourself is learning to hold awareness within us to view these behaviours and make a choice that is aligned with our true heart and values.

Awareness is the quintessential key for creating change, both with others and ourselves.

Couple it with compassion and you have the two main ingredients for growth and an awakening path.

What we try not to feel, ends up unconsciously controlling us.

Spirit, soul, inner self, Buddha nature, Christ Consciousness, Self with a capital S, awareness, inner being… whatever words we want to use, they’re all pointing to the same thing..

The only unchanging certainty throughout all our life, is the knowing that we exist.

Stability is within Self knowing.

Self knowing stripped of all ideas, identities or possessions one might add on top of their pure presence.

Everything in life changes but our essential spirit. Know yourself as this, be this, and stability will come.

When I came to Whanganui I struggled for a while to adjust to less variety and options of choices where I might walk. There are certainly beautiful spots around, but not the degree of choice I was used to.

Now, through the last five and a bit years I’ve been here, I’ve found so much joy through learning to recognise and receive the depth of variety available within simplicity.

The same simple walk each day offers me something different. The different seasons offer their own array, different days, weather and light, different people I meet, and their dogs, the movement of the trees, wind and water, the birds singing and dancing around me, the way my dog plays and sniffs and enjoys. Everyday is fresh and new for him too.

I think one of the things I value the most now, is the strong relationship I have formed with my neighbourhood through this daily connection. I feel this place. I notice each of her precious gifts with so much more reverence and appreciation.

Variety may be the spice of life, but deepening into simplicity, I am learning, is definitely where true joy lies.