Author: ratnadyer

Go deeper.
Live honest with yourself.
Look underneath your own surface.
Allow yourself to be real.

Difficult feelings are not the problem, it’s the resistance to them, and then when we try to work on ourselves and not resist, we develop resistance to the resistance.

How do we step back and see from the space of allowing?

We can perhaps consider that all of our stuff is already here, already playing out, already present and therefore on some level of our being, already allowed/accepted.

Yesterday my 93yr old neighbour rang me to tell me his house was going on the market.

He’s lived there for 31yrs. His wife died a couple of months ago, and not long after, he had a fall and went to into respite care, where they told him he’s not allowed to go home and be on his own any longer.

His words were ‘So that is that’.

26 years of marriage and
31yrs of his house and tending their beautiful garden, and now he has to let it all go.

The point is.. in the end, we have to let everything go.

And if we spend our whole life focusing on where we will hopefully get to, we will not see and soak up the joy of life as we are in it.

Don’t miss what you have.

Everyday has beauty. Everyday has happy and sad and good and bad. But everyday is for being alive fully and breathing it in deeply.

Don’t miss simple glories.

Are you always looking for the next best thing?

Relax back into now. This moment. The silence. Simplicity is the haven of the heart. It holds the most fulfilment.

You will not find fulfilment in any future moment. Only this. This moment.

Listening is like breathing, if we stop, we are not fully alive.

Sometimes we tell ourselves we don’t need to look or question or consider something anew, as we think we are already aware and knowing on that thing.

This puts a ceiling on our expansion, on our ability to listen with freshness to each moment.

Remaining humble and curious and willing to look again and again and again with each moment being a new life lived, this is the magical path. This path appears before you like golden bricks forming one step at a time, and leading you into your innermost home and clarity.

When we really truely deeply listen to what is here, what we are in truth; our deep heart, one with life.. When we really listen and we learn to move from there, we will find ourselves being of the most service in creating change in the world.

We can’t be a part of true change in the world before we have really listened inwardly and done our own deep work.

And let’s face it, sometimes we have to go through stuff that is pretty unfair to help us heal.

Just let the emotion be had and let it move through. When allowed its existence, it’s expression, it can eventually dissipate.

Find healthy ways to express anger. Use your body. I lie on my bed and throw a cushion as hard as I can at the wall again and again. Or I garden hard out and rip out weeds or dig the earth with a vengeance. Find whatever safe way works for you.

Balance allows movement. If an emotion has you like quick sand for a long time however, it’s necessary to look at what thoughts are linking to it and perhaps keeping you entrenched.

None the less, none of it is wrong.
You are not wrong for feeling.
You are not wrong for thinking.
You are human.
And you are learning.

Self compassion, self acceptance is key.

Awakening is a continuous, ongoing way of being, not unlike breathing.

It’s kind of like a movement of seeing.

It’s not some static goal to be attained.

There are stages within it where we attain higher understanding.

However it is not something we can say we have ever finished or that we can hold.

It moves inside us like space.

Un-graspable.

Ever being, ever becoming.