We think of ourself as one person, but when we really break it down we all have multiple parts within us.
For example we have the part that keeps things going, cleans the house and goes to work, while another part all the while feels lonely and perhaps forgotten. And then we have another part that does all it can to keep the lonely one’s difficult feelings at bay by being super busy or using some kind of distraction or addiction. Then we have a part that wants to have a voice and a part that wants to stay undetected and safe. We have a part that wants to seek help and a part that doesn’t. A part that wants to be close and a part that fears rejection/abandonment. Then we have a part that is so often critical and judging ourselves and our various parts.
We have multiple parts.
While the adult you might be ok with something, your child part might have different feelings.
Start to learn to listen for the vulnerable parts within you and care as you would for someone you love. The adult you always knows how to look after the little one.