Author: ratnadyer

Sometimes there are just no answers and all we can do is keep walking and learn to be as present and loving as we can with our experience.

To be free and truly available to joy, we have to look deeply at ourselves, who we think we are, our old conditioned patterns and our ways of being in relationship.
At a certain point, without doing this, nothing truly new can come in otherwise.. Essentially just the same old stuff but with a different face.

To heal, spiritual practice is not enough on its own.

We need to look at our psychological self, traumas and patterns.

We need to learn to stay open and available to and with our humanity; our needs, our past traumas, our emotions, our body’s felt experience, our pain, our yearnings our fears and our joy.

If we do not endeavour to meet ourselves and others on all these levels, then whatever we are trying to transcend through meditation or by being in the ‘flow state’, will keep coming up and we will unknowingly remain trapped in an unconscious loop of resistance and spiritual bypassing.
And we will keep hurting those we love.

“The cure for the pain is in the pain.”
Rumi.

It is not possible to permanently transcend a primal human need.

“No man is an island.”
John Donne.

It is not wisdom to be ‘independent’ past the point of being kind to yourself or being able to let kindness in.

We are interconnected beings.
We need each other, whether we like it or not.

How can we help the healing?

Weeks, months and even years later.. an apology can show that it is possible for others to take responsibility for their part in things.
Saying I’m sorry has the healing power to help someone confirm they do matter and are worthy of acknowledgment.

Closely identify and cast away the story that forms lies and reveal the beauty of truth that was and is there all along… YOU.
Your heart.
Your being.
Your effortlessly and innately worthy of love essential presence.

The truth of love, real love, can never ever be lost. It cannot leave. It rests inside like a quiet knowing, an untouchable force, a presence, grace itself. It’s who we are.

When we do the inner work to raise our awareness of our unprocessed pain.. when we learn to stay present with ourselves through it and release unconscious protective mechanisms that no longer serve us, we can come to a peaceful kind of emptiness, where there is nothing left but is-ness, being, awareness.

Our essential nature is all that is always there.
Love.
Even if we might feel sad.

Will I open myself or close myself?
Take courage, trust and endeavour to continually choose open.

“What does it take for one single body to exist? – It takes the entire universe.”
Adyashanti.

Nothing and no one exists on their own. We are all part of the ecosystem of life. We are born through our parents bodies. We can’t survive without loving relationships and connection.
We need each other. Too much isolation has been scientifically proven to affect our physical, emotional and mental health.

We can and need to strive for a level of self reliance and independence yes, but no matter how independent we might become, we are still dependent on everything.
We are dependent on the air we breathe being clean.
We are dependent on our liver function and our heart continuing to beat.
We are dependent on the supermarket being stocked, the truck drivers delivering food, the electricity and internet operating, the sun and the rain.
We are dependent on the honey bees to pollinate our plants and food, the trees so we can have a liveable planet, the mycelium to feed the soil so the trees can grow…
The list is endless.

The entire planet, in fact the entire universe and everything in it is interconnected.