Author: ratnadyer

Who we truly are in essence, is always worthy of compassion and connection.

I appreciate the notion of being and becoming…
All the while that we are becoming more and more our wholeness and our full potential, we are, in the truth of our being, simultaneously already and always whole.

Everything in life on the outside is changeable, and we can change some of our inner workings by learning to observe and hold space around our conditioning, but we can’t change the truth of who we are.

Just simply in being, we are lovable and valuable and precious.

Centering ourselves; releasing any anxiety, relaxing and finding more inner peace, involves being in the present.

Anxiety exists only in our anticipation of the future.
When we come into our physical senses and breathe the aliveness and preciousness of now, we can come home to ourselves.

When a client actually takes a tool or practice I offer or suggest will help them, and they apply it, I say hallelujah!

We can talk about all sorts of things, and there is value in connection, expression and support. But if we really want to create change, we need to apply ourselves and put things into practice.

Fear drains our energy, even when we sometimes don’t fully realise it’s there.

When we can learn tools and resources that enable us to be anchored in our self and our inner safety, we can then safely allow, express and process our fear.

For me those tools are yoga and meditation: being in my body and breath and mindful awareness of presence.

As we deepen with these practices, we will find we can work things through, even our most uncomfortable and painful feelings.

When we lose someone we love, the love never leaves.

The reality we see and our experience of things, differs depending on our level of consciousness.

Being fiercely attached to an independent stance is often a trauma response.

If this is your pattern, understand that it takes more courage and strength to open up to receive than it does to always control things by doing them yourself.

You are not responsible for your partner’s triggers. And your partner, nor anyone else, is not responsible for yours.

Each of us as adults, are responsible for our own triggers.

We need to learn to differentiate between what is present reality and when we are unconsciously receiving our experience through our past experiences in a triggered way.

We can learn to be sensitive, caring and understanding about what might trigger others in our relationships, but at the end of the day, if they get triggered, it is because that trigger was already there inside them.
It is their responsibility.

We are each responsible for our own conduct, not anyone else’s.

Commitment provides a path to freedom.

The more committed you are, the more ease comes.

The knowing that we are, is not caught inside our reactions.

It might feel like that when we are stressed, as everything seems to collapse into itself, but we can learn to step back and be an observer to our selves. We can create inner space filled with grace. This is the essential principle of mindfulness.

We are more than any reaction or behaviour we might have.