Author: ratnadyer

Conditional love is saying: ‘I will only love you if/when you do this or don’t do that.’

Boundaries in relationship say: ‘I love you no matter what you do, and yet I won’t choose to be with you when your behaviour is unkind.

Healthy boundaries are indispensable when it comes to respect, healthy relationships and thorough care for each other.

Sometimes we fear that if we set a boundary, the other will reject us.

However consider.. if you’re not expressing your boundaries, you’re also not giving others the opportunity to love you the way you need.

Is there something you know you’re not listening to? That you know you’re pushing down or trying to push away?

If you can’t rely on yourself to listen, it’s likely you’ll experience that others don’t listen.

Self honesty is step three of making inner changes..
1- stop
2-listen
3-be honest with yourself about what is there inside you.
4-allow it to be there
5-make choices about how to move from there.

Raise your awareness! Your heart needs you to look and listen within.

Everything changes.

Find the groundless ground within you that doesn’t pass.

This is worth more than any gold.

You can choose whether to follow or own a thought or to simply send it back to the sea of the collective mind whence it came.

A thought has no power without your consciousness attaching to and believing it.

We can tend to split off from our challenging feelings and put them in the bad box.

Healing requires us to embrace ourselves with all our feelings.

We still need to look after others by taking care and responsibility within how and how much we share or act out our reactive emotions.

But when we can learn to be kind inwardly to ourselves when tough feelings arise, we can gain resilience and grace.

Depression is a blanket you lay over your sadness, to suppress and dampen its pain. This only delays the cleansing and healing available through expressing your deep tears.

Sometimes we need to suppress our pain, until we are resourced and ready to connect within and let it out.

We need the right support and conditions to grow.

A fruit can’t form without first a budding flower and a bee to pollinate it, it can’t grow without the rain to feed it, and it won’t ripen without enough sun. It needs loving nourishment with compost and fertiliser, to really fulfill it’s innate potential glory.

Without the right love and conditions in life, we struggle.

And sometimes our psyche protects us from this agony of lack, loss or abuse, by suppressing our pain so deeply, that even we can’t see it’s there. As we sub-consciously fear that if we let ourselves feel it, it will destroy us.

Depression sometimes is there to help hold this emotional stall out in place.

This can help us keep going, and yet we still need help.

We need to take courageous steps to reach out again and again, to gain the components that will provide us the support and nourishment we need.

As we consistently tend to our own growth, naturally our efforts will bear fruit.

And when the fruit is fully ripe, it will succumb to your harvesting hand with just a slight touch.

And you will find your inner safety and the tears can flow.

Who you are in truth is effortless.

Truely opening our heart is a bigger journey than we often realise.

It takes great strength to be with and embrace ourselves with our vulnerability.

Do what you need to do to enable you to really show up for yourself and for the world.

We need authentic presence.
We need self honesty.
We need truth and awareness.
We need self responsibility.

Be the change you wish to see in the world.

Learning to trust yourself, you need to consistently show up.

To gain others’ deep trust, you need to be consistent.