Author: ratnadyer

Therapist: Psychosynthesis Counsellor MNZAC. Student of spirituality. Yoga practitioner. Mother.

The key to walking in life with inner peace and happiness is: to learn to listen.

by ratnadyer

What does it mean to learn to listen?

There are many ways and levels in which we can learn to listen.

There is the most obvious, the physical listening; listening through our five senses. Listening to the sounds of our environment, listening to the feel of touch, the aliveness of smell, the beauty of sight, the array of tastes.

There is listening to our body or what we call interoception. Where we listen to our sensations, our breathing, our inner body, our level of energy.

There is listening on the emotional level, both inwardly to how we are truthfully feeling and outwardly with a kind of attuning to others emotions empathically.

There is listening to mind activity and the mental noise of thoughts, perspectives and opinions. Both our own and others.

There is listening to our intuition and felt sense of knowing; our gut feeling.

There is listening to the subtle realms within creativity like in a painting, music or dance.

There is listening to the act of listening itself. Which connects us with the awareness dimension of experiencing our self and our own presence.

Then there is listening through our awareness and presence to the vast depth of silence and the mystery of life itself.

Meditation in its various forms is the most powerful practice we can do to strengthen our ability to listen on all levels.

And to hold an intention to be open to the unknown.

Lean into the core of silence.

by ratnadyer

So often we find silence challenging. The kind of silence where there is nothing left between us and the infinite space of our own being.

It can maybe feel like the edge of a void or cliff or a black hole. Our idea of it can often harbour the threat of loneliness, or unwanted fears and feelings arising.

However this is not bad. In fact it is an opportunity, as here we can learn to help ourselves feel safe and cared for. We have the opportunity for our feelings and fears to begin to be seen, heard and released by us, rather than avoided.

A spiritual teacher once said ‘When you can bear your own emptiness, there you find freedom.’

Emptiness/true silence holds the richest gift. Don’t be afraid. Learn to lean into it, feel it expand as you do.

Find your Self there.

“Not matter what happens and no matter how good or bad you feel, I will always be here.” – Your Inner Self.

by ratnadyer

As well as our human need for connection, love, guidance and support, whether we realise it or not, we have what we need to heal inside us.

We have the words we always needed to hear in our own mind and on our own lips.

We have the kindness we so desperately need to receive in our own heart.

We have the wisdom we need to find within our own letting go of thinking that we already know.

We have the constant companion that never leaves and is never separate in our own breath.

We are never alone, our inner self is walking us home.

Trust isn’t to do with anything that might happen. Trust is to do with knowing who you are.

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We often think things like: I trust it will work out, or I trust you etc. But trust is not about outcomes or that others will be the way we need them to be.

Outcomes and other’s behaviours are changeable and not always reliable.
Trust is much more than that.

Trust is that place in you where there are no questions; a deep sense of presence in knowing your own spirit; your own heart.

Trust does not hold any need for the future, trust IS ok right NOW. Trust is the direct knowing of a vast still point in our own beingness that does not change.

I am the love between you and I.You are the love between you and I.Here there is no you and no I, only love. This is oneness.

by ratnadyer

Spiritual teachings often say something akin to ‘We are all one’. This is usually just a nice spiritual concept that nobody really understands. And if we do try to study it, It is not something we can use our mind to fathom, as the knowing of oneness is not an intellectual process.

We have to have a direct experience of oneness to have some inkling of it, and even then it is still a mystery.

Love however is a direct door into oneness. It is the connecting force of all life. It is the energy of consciousness being alive and close and connected with itself. It is the direct recognition of ones self in the ‘other’, where self and other dissolve.