Author: ratnadyer

There is no you outside of this moment. There is no you outside of awareness.

Become aware of how you keep your ego alive, active and pretending to be you!

Our mind has a part that talks to itself about itself.
Whether it’s negative or positive, superior or inferior thinking.. both sides are a form of ego.

This in simplest terms, is just mind activity. Just thoughts. They hold no reality or substance at all, until we hook in, believe them and then act from them.

When seen and released, they hold no power or truth.

Learn to recognise the automatic thoughts that tend to hang around with your known version of yourself. Learn to look into them and see their trick, their unreality.

What kind of person do you want to be remembered as?
How do you impact people that you come into contact with in your life?
What kind of energy do you put out?
How much do you think your being in the world helps make the world a more loving, aware place?
Personal growth is not only about you, it impacts the whole world.

Let us not seek the formless Absolute so vehemently that we miss the thousand doorways to commune with it all around us in relative form.

We might meditate for hours and perhaps get really good at it, lift off into all sorts of altered states of consciousness.. and yet truth is, we always come back to ordinary everyday reality.

Meditation is important yes. It helps us cultivate commitment, awareness, insight, resilience, stability, focus, stillness etc. However if it does not then translate and integrate into our way of being in the world, our relationships, our lived connected, embodied experience, then it is limited. And perhaps even becomes just another way of escaping, bypassing and trying to lift off and out all together.

Meditate AND be here now. Be alive. Taste your food. Feel your body breathe, move, have emotions, enjoy the colours the smells, the birds, the human heart, relationships and vulnerability, the capacity to love and express and listen.

These are where the rubber hits the road, the ways into recognising timelessness and oneness.

A large part of our experience is created through how we filter things within our mind, our perception.

Five people can have the same experience at the same time, and yet each will give you a different description or interpretation.
It’s not the thing that was different, but the minds of the people.

When we suffer, we are feeding ourselves a narrative that makes something personal and creates separation.

Truth and reality exist before, during and after, without us having any thought/s about it.

Become aware of what you are telling yourself that generates an often familiar feeling of suffering.

Look deeply. Investigate.. are these thoughts absolutely 100% true? Help yourself find the crack in their lie.

It’s in our struggle against things that our suffering is born. When we are in a conscious surrendering; allowing and accepting of what is arising within us in the present moment, we can find peace.

We can find the part of us that is ok, when we aren’t ok; when we are angry, upset or even despairing.

There is always loving presence holding all of it.

Don’t use the notion of self love as a rationalisation for emotional dumping on others.
If it’s not loving to them, it’s also not healing for us.

When we are truly working with healing within our emotional experience this helps us to be able to take care of others and ourselves at the same time.

When someone says they have no fear/s, I see a red flag.

Yes it is important to find a balance and an awareness around how much we entertain our fears or project scary imaginings into the future.. however it is also unhealthy to deny our fear or to minimise, dismiss or ignore it.

If we want to heal anything, we first have to allow it. We have to find our way within it. We have to look into the nature of it within ourselves.

We learn to swim by being in the water. Through direct experience. We don’t make much progress by unconsciously trying to control our fear through thinking…by creating a sense of security or control by thinking we know the truth, we know how something is. This becomes dogma.

Let’s be real, no one ultimately knows 100% how anything is.
Uncertainty and flux is the nature of human life.

Do the inner work. It’s the best investment you can ever make.

Real self care is an act of service.