Author: ratnadyer

I’m learning to be with myself with the whole spectrum of my experience. My feelings are teaching me deeper stability and compassion. They help me heal, be real and be alive to life.

What is your relationship like with your emotions?
Do you judge your emotions or judge yourself for having emotions?
Are you shut off from them or thrown around by them?

Learning to be truly emotionally balanced requires deep, ongoing personal growth work.

If you find your feelings hard to regulate, be in your body and your senses more. Let your body’s experience ground you and hold your feelings.

If you find emotion hard to access, listen to your body sensations. All feelings are held in the body, whether we recognise them or not. Learn to listen.

Our body provides the most powerful key to learning emotional maturity.
Body work options like yoga, chi gong, tai chi, massage etc, are all powerful tools for healing.

There is always more to you than what you are experiencing.

Freedom comes when we learn to trust the unknown; a reality greater than just ourselves and our limited mind.

To lean into the unknown, we need to be prepared to let go of all we think we know.

Just as our babies need a parent to cuddle them when they cry, we as adults need to feel support with our deep feelings. Our emotions need something to be held by and to let go into.

This capacity to be with ourselves emotionally is in us, in the expanse of our transcendent and deeply connected being; our heart of awareness.

Heart centered healing is about bringing the two together; our human hurt and happiness with our loving awareness. Learning to be aware and lovingly present with ourselves, even within our most challenging human feelings, we can find freedom, as there is nothing we need to run from.

Be kind, be present.. within and without.

It’s a common experience we have when someone tries to push their version of the truth on us that we often instinctively feel repelled.

Perhaps this is partly because something in us senses that truth is more present when unspoken.
Rather than being thrown around in opinions or agendas, truth is a thousand times more powerful when quietly role-modelled and embodied without identity or attachment.

In this way too, it is similar on the inner level… Learn to listen for the quieter, kinder voices inside. They don’t usually shout at you for their attention, but they can often offer far better advice.

Our egoic mind is so often looking for peak experiences.

Sink into the simplicity of now. Here awakening is always present.

Sometimes we have to feel into where things aren’t working with more sensitivity in order to grow our awareness.
This can feel like a step back, as often it means touching into hidden recesses within us that we might wish weren’t there.

When we do this however, we can then gain more honest information about where we are really at, what we need and we can make better, more aware choices about how we need to proceed.

When we step with awareness our actions can heal and generate goodness.

To gain inner freedom we need to step back from conditioned, automatic and reactive patterns. To do this we need to observe ourselves.

Our psyche is incredible. We have different levels within our awareness. The observer is a place within us from which we are able to view our drama but not be inside it.
Like being in the audience at the movie theatre while simultaneously watching yourself as the character in the film. It is not a disconnected/dissociative activity, no.. it is an engaged and alert presence of awareness with what is.

The observer enables us to see ourselves when we are caught in or acting from our ‘stuff’; emotions, behaviours and belief systems, and to inwardly step back, create space and make more conscious choices.

We can’t create real freedom of any kind when without even knowing it our behaviour is coming from unconscious beliefs and outdated, often unhelpful and patterns and motivations.

Practice to stop, to pause and investigate when you’re feeling something strongly. Use your triggers as red flags to free you.

Investigate your inner workings. Be curious. Practice identifying the parts of you present, different at different times. They’re a bit like sub-personalities. We all have several aspects to ourself. It’s in the structure of the human psyche.
The more we practice identifying which parts of us are arising or conflicted in different moments, the more we begin to gain space from them. We can learn to form a more accepting, kind relationship with our parts and gradually alongside this we naturally sit back more and more in knowing ourselves as the awareness holding them all.