Sometimes we have to feel into where things aren’t working with more sensitivity in order to grow our awareness.
This can feel like a step back, as often it means touching into hidden recesses within us that we might wish weren’t there.
When we do this however, we can then gain more honest information about where we are really at, what we need and we can make better, more aware choices about how we need to proceed.
When we step with awareness our actions can heal and generate goodness.
To gain inner freedom we need to step back from conditioned, automatic and reactive patterns. To do this we need to observe ourselves.
Our psyche is incredible. We have different levels within our awareness. The observer is a place within us from which we are able to view our drama but not be inside it.
Like being in the audience at the movie theatre while simultaneously watching yourself as the character in the film. It is not a disconnected/dissociative activity, no.. it is an engaged and alert presence of awareness with what is.
The observer enables us to see ourselves when we are caught in or acting from our ‘stuff’; emotions, behaviours and belief systems, and to inwardly step back, create space and make more conscious choices.
We can’t create real freedom of any kind when without even knowing it our behaviour is coming from unconscious beliefs and outdated, often unhelpful and patterns and motivations.
Practice to stop, to pause and investigate when you’re feeling something strongly. Use your triggers as red flags to free you.
Investigate your inner workings. Be curious. Practice identifying the parts of you present, different at different times. They’re a bit like sub-personalities. We all have several aspects to ourself. It’s in the structure of the human psyche.
The more we practice identifying which parts of us are arising or conflicted in different moments, the more we begin to gain space from them. We can learn to form a more accepting, kind relationship with our parts and gradually alongside this we naturally sit back more and more in knowing ourselves as the awareness holding them all.
Listening to our body we can come home.
In the end it’s all about spiritual awakening and surrendering, again and again and again, until we are present, available and a vehicle for the light.
Practicing surrendering in presence we can find inner peace, non-resistance, acceptance of what is.
This does not mean we don’t still work for what is good and right and true. Or that we use spirituality as a bypass to excuse/ignore what needs to be addressed.
But it means that with all we do, on the inside we are grounded in and keep returning to grace and trust and love. And with this our contributions can be all the more powerful.
Before we go and plaster others with our opinions or perspectives, let us endeavour to practice awareness on how best to act from love and integrity.
We are more than any feeling, thought or happening we might have.
It will pass and we will still be here.
Every moment counts.
Don’t spend your time complaining or being a victim to your experiences.
Get help. Empower yourself. Create and be the life you want.
Be the heart centered, authentic person you really want to be and know you are.
Do what you need to do now to take the next step toward living your life fully.
Emotions held within us with loving compassion open and deepen our heart.
Learn to move towards yourself when you are struggling.
Recognise how you move away from yourself when you don’t like your experience.
The blessing of connection deepens and wholeness comes, when we can be with and allow all parts of us, all aspects of our humanity, and offer it all up with honesty to the sky.
Truly trusting yourself is not about believing in your own ideas and beliefs.
Who you are is much bigger than any perspective, belief or mind structure.
To learn to trust yourself is to know your presence beyond thought and to be willing to let go of controlling everything so much through how you think about things and instead lean into the immeasurable.
RATNA DYER 