Author: ratnadyer

Anything we do to try and please others when it’s not our truth, in the end gives us exactly the opposite of what we want.. which is to be entirely true to our self, deeply authentic, within and without.

When we repress, suppress, deny or adjust our true heart, we not only move away from happiness, we actually generate suffering.

When it’s hard to be authentic, when we fear someone being angry, disapproving or rejecting, it is helpful to realise that real joy is when we know inside that we are in alignment with our integrity, truth and authentic being.

Sometimes we need to nod and smile and appease others as a conscious means to minimise reactivity or harm, if we can see that they aren’t able to take responsibility or hear us. This doesn’t necessarily mean we are being inauthentic. It means we are discerning about our relationships and choosing consciously how best to navigate them.

If we are in a close relationship where we don’t feel safe enough to be ourselves, it is really important to question if that relationship is what we are telling ourselves it is and if it might be in our best interest to step aside.

It might also be necessary to look at our past experiences around love, conditional love and how we were supported/unsupported/neglected/abused growing up. Often people pleasing is a learnt trauma response and needs to be reassured and worked with patiently.

We can anticipate, imagine and think about something as much as we like… it will never be the same as it is in reality.

Allow ourselves to trust life.
All the things we fear, are different in their experience than the way our mind anxiously projects.

We can only know our way through an experience when it is upon us. We can only walk through something in the present moment. And in the moment, it will be what it will be and we will do our best as we always do.

Find pockets of beauty scattered everywhere.

Pay attention to the smallest details. Look closer.

When we appreciate beauty often, we feel more love for life and we become more loving.

Empathic sensitivity and emotional sensitivity are often experienced or judged as something of a curse at times. And in our western society, these can often be seen as weak or unstable.

In truth, they are an asset. As they can force us to have to work on ourselves to find inner stability, resilience and peace.

And then when we have come home to ourselves in this way, the gift of seeing and being able to connect with other people’s energy and processes with more clarity is so apparent.

We can use this to help people heal.

Compassionate self honesty is the first step toward being truly heard.

As adults, if we are not listening to ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to hear?

Life’s wisdom is unfathomable. It knows what we need on the deepest and highest levels, for our growth to bring us into the strength of who we really are.

When we go through struggle and we don’t get what we think we want, this is a much greater design working on us, forging us, working on bringing forth the light in us, and purging what we are outgrowing and ready to release from the past.

Sometimes we need help to learn to stay with and trust the tough times. To let this work it’s magic on us, to move through and transform us, rather than us trying to always control and keep one step ahead of our fears.

When we resist, we suffer.
When we learn to release our personal agenda and move in flow with what life wants, we feel the joy and expansion of alignment, grace and wisdom.

Let life operate on you.

When we trust (even in the harder times) in a bigger process, we find gold in the centre.

Creativity is a vital part of an inspired and inspiring life.
Without it life can become robotic, dull, down.

Even the simple act of picking a few flowers and arranging them in a vase is creativity at play.

What ways does your creativity express itself?

Nothing can heal heal without loving kindness.

We often have the mistaken goal in the spiritual journey of making it beyond our human vulnerability, if we can only transcend ourselves enough.

This is not the reality of enlightenment. An enlightened understanding leaves nothing behind, nothing out, nothing separate. All is included, encircled and wrapped in loving compassion.