We can try to figure things out in our mind to feel like we have some sense of controlling life. We are often way ahead of ourselves in this, and not connected to reality.
Sure it works and is important for pragmatic planning and simple things, but for the inner things and the feelings and the relationships, we are not going to know until it unfolds and is alive and revealing itself to us in the moment.
Trust yourself enough to explore and find out.
Allow life to show you.
We get so consumed in our thinking, we are one big walking head!
We even forget we have a body.
What is reality?
Thoughts change 60,000 or more times a day! And what is left of them that is really true?
And who’s thought world is the real one? When each one is real for each individual?!
To find truth and stability in ourselves, we must see that which is unstable and unreliable and step back from it.
Come out of your changing, unstable thinking, and into your breath, your body presence, body sensations, your senses, the earth under your feet.
Take up a yoga class, find some good body scan meditations on YouTube, use an app like headspace or calm or insighttimer to help you.
Anchor yourself into the real. And keep practicing this everyday.
Healing is an embodied experience.
Focus on your own growth in your relationships. You cannot change the other person.
Look and work with your half of the dynamic.
Yes express and communicate clearly about your fears, your needs, your wants and experiences, and yet whether changes happen in them or not, is not up to you.
You are not your mind. You can see the movement of your mind, therefore you are there prior, for a mind to happen within.
You can exist without thinking, thinking cannot happen without you.
Our mind often carries a lot and tortures itself with worry, unceasing problems, judgements, fears and identity.
Don’t make your mind the enemy. Have compassion for it. It bears a lot.
Just know you are more than the activity of thinking, your heart is much vaster.
Learn to be in your heart, your beingness, your presence, your self as awareness.
Not so much your head, existing and trying to control things through thinking and ideas and identity.
Wherever you go, there you are. You don’t have to think about anything to exist.
You don’t always need to understand everything and have it all figured out to find your way.
Your breathing happens for you. Life unfolds. Yes use your mind as a powerful tool, but learn not to let it use you.
The same can be said for any emotion. You are more than your emotions.
Gaining mastery of one’s self involves learning to deeply be with your emotions, to be compassionate with yourself, to honour and express them consciously, with care for yourself and others and without losing awareness.
True emotional maturity is no small feat and requires ongoing commitment to oneself.
We look everywhere outside of us for ideas and information and feedback and relationships and interests and and and…
And yet all the while we overlook our very own presence, our ever present awareness, that which is the context of our connection to everything.
Without our inner eye, there is no knowing of anything. And it exists prior to any thought, it just sees.
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Have you faced and befriended your demons or are you still unconsciously running?
What you haven’t healed is often, on some level, motivating a lot of what you do.
If you haven’t done the inside work, the outside will never be enough.
Raising your self awareness about how things have shaped you is imperative for creating your ability to make conscious choices.
When we truely walk a path of authenticity, our ego attachments and identity get shaken up, dismantled and shed.
This is not a comfortable process. It requires courage, vulnerability, deep self honesty and being brought into the core of your truth.
When there is nothing left to hide, we can live with our hearts wide and our integrity as the highest armour.
Listen to who you really are underneath all of your reactivity, fear and ideas.
Who you are is more than any of these passing things.
Who you are is peace.
Healing is incremental, gradual and stable, like the growth of a tree.
Just keep watering.
RATNA DYER 