Until we find who we really are, beyond any ideas of identity, we are forever looking for the next thing to fill the gap; the next thing to attach to, entertain us or define ourselves through.
It’s insatiable.
Stop.
Listen.
Only you, beyond all identity, is enough.
When you do not feel at home in yourself, you will never truely feel at home anywhere. No matter where.
When you feel at home somewhere, it is because that place helps you to relax and be yourself.
Find home within.
You are the only absolute constant.
What is my happy place?
It is me. I am that.
I am the only place I experience everything.
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I am experiencing such ongoing learning in how I relate to my emotions.
This week I have seen so strongly where and how I continue to judge my feelings, and some certain ones I try everything I can to not have.
I try everything.. everything including all the spiritual practices.
And so.. a letting go of needing to feel anything other than what is arising in me in the given moment.
Letting it move through, be held by my centre and expressed.
This is my practice.
What is here is what is, and so best to be with it. And be with it in my body. Even if it is emotional.
I am allowed to have all the feelings in the emotional spectrum.
All feelings are a part of divinity.
What is it that means the most to you?
True safety is an inner experience.
Things we can do to grow our inner safety:
listen to our feelings,
be deeply honest with ourself, connect with our breathing,
constantly come into present moment awareness using our five senses,
feel the constancy of our own presence,
do things we enjoy and love,
exercise,
sleep well,
yoga,
meditation,
have delicious healthy food,
spend time in nature,
focus on beauty, appreciation and gratitude,
get comfortable being alone,
have healthy social connections,
listen/play music,
art and creativity,
ask for support when we need it…
What works for you?
Learning to be still a whole new world opens to us.
We become alive to seeing subtle beauty everywhere,
the vibrancy of colours,
hearing subtle and wonderous sounds,
the feeling of our body and our feet connecting with the Earth,
tasting the salt and the sweetness,
the fullness of relaxed breath,
the smell of an autumn morning as the dew rests silently.
With extreme events where we feel lost or our heart gets broken, we are faced with the choice:
to open or to close.
Do you open your heart wider to receive the healing process?
Or do you shut it down, off, closed to protect yourself from being hurt again?
In shutting down, the hurt will keep presenting. It will persist.
In opening, yes it feels wild and raw and out of our control, but we can ride that wave right back into the shore of our own true heart. And we find love there.
Stay open. Stay connected. Be willing to be wounded by life.
It’s worth it.
When we look for ourself we move away from our self.
It’s more about turning your attention into recognising the source of the looking.
It’s realising you are already where you are looking from.
Spend time resting in the sense of your own presence.
RATNA DYER 