The healing journey can be so far out hard sometimes. It can turn you inside out, upside down, down into the depths of fear and put into the realms of surrender, as you recognise there is nothing much else left.
And then when you let go, you find yourself. You’re the only thing left.
And you are magnificent.
We can have self awareness and we can realise ourselves AS awareness itself.
When we have self awareness, it has come through observing and identifying the ego self: having a clear recognition of it’s patterns, beliefs, behaviours, reactions, fears, insecurities and insatiableness.
When we realise our Self AS awareness, we recognise our true place. We are awareness resting in itself. Not even resting. Just here.
We are aware of even the observer. We are beyond the mind. We are the sense of being, the I am presence, the wordless knowing, our pure Self that has no name.
I have awareness of my self. I am awareness itself.
Just like a seed knows how to grow into the plant it is to become, consciousness ultimately knows how to grow and heal itself. Nothing and no one external needs to tell it.
Even when we receive help and guidance, it is still from within that any decision is seen and made.
You don’t have to know what to do, you just need to be willing to listen and allow life to show you; get your intellect out of the way and follow the simplicity of what is laid out. The truth calls within at each step and knows what this is.
Follow.
Role modelling self reflection, humility, a willingness to grow, listen and acknowledge your limitations. This makes all the difference in parenting.
Our kids are astute. They see when we walk our talk and when we are all talk and not walking it.
And how can we really be there for them and connect deeply if we can’t hear when we might be the one that needs to learn from them?!
We don’t have to get it all right and be perfect, no one manages that. But we do need to be real and role model taking responsibility to heal and grow and love.
When we do this we can remain more open. Love blossoms this way.
True celebration doesn’t exclude half our experience. It knows how to be whole and safe and real and open with all of it.
It knows how to breathe and appreciate the beauty in everything, even sadness.
It knows how to release and dance and sing freely.
When we are not afraid of our darkness, we are free to explore our full heart and the space can fill with trust, truth and joy.
Don’t hold back.
When we slow down, allow our feelings, drop into and through our feelings, there we find underneath, always, the clear open space of our being. Our inner peace.
What do you do to keep running?
It is helpful to identify the ways that we avoid our feelings and what vices/behaviours we use to keep us from really being with ourself.
Common things people do:
-keep busy all the time.
-escape into a screen of some kind.
-try to never be alone.
-alchohol.
-drugs.
-smoke.
-eat.
-compulsive exercise.
-think think think.
-blame others/life.
-focus always on the next thing we can acquire/achieve.
-fantasize/daydream.
-isolate ourselves.
-never ending list of other distractions.
All these things are all part of being human, so it’s not about putting anything into a bad box.
But what matters is, that we become aware of what we do and what is driving it.
When we start to identify.. ahh I see, here I am doing this again.. we can become curious.. what’s really going on in me?..
Then we can start to open an inner doorway toward understanding, self connection and making more conscious choices.
We do not have to be driven by an unconscious fear of feelings.
Simple things:
Rest.
Eat healthy food.
Stretch your body.
Exercise.
Get enough sleep.
Do something creative.
Sit in silence.
Appreciate beauty.
Be in nature.
People don’t know unless we tell them.
Sometimes we are almost successful to hide our needs from ourselves.
Eventually however, they will boil up and over and make themselves unbearable.
When we can be open, inwardly and with others, we can create movement and change.
Let yourself learn to acknowledge, feel and be present with the full extent of your feelings.
When we really let ourselves have and face the full extent of our pain, we open our heart equally to the fullness of grace and connectedness.
When we resist and hold out from honouring what needs healing, this keeps us in prison.
RATNA DYER 