Author: ratnadyer

Simple things:

Rest.

Eat healthy food.

Stretch your body.

Exercise.

Get enough sleep.

Do something creative.

Sit in silence.

Appreciate beauty.

Be in nature.

People don’t know unless we tell them.

Sometimes we are almost successful to hide our needs from ourselves.

Eventually however, they will boil up and over and make themselves unbearable.

When we can be open, inwardly and with others, we can create movement and change.

Let yourself learn to acknowledge, feel and be present with the full extent of your feelings.

When we really let ourselves have and face the full extent of our pain, we open our heart equally to the fullness of grace and connectedness.

When we resist and hold out from honouring what needs healing, this keeps us in prison.

Sometimes parts of us, no matter what we do, we can’t seem to change or get rid of.

Consider it differently… what if, past a certain point, we are not meant to improve them? What if they are there to help us learn to find self compassion, patience, commitment and trust.

What if they are there to help us transcend our thinking of ourselves as their ego identity; to support our journey to return home to our true heart of pure awareness!!

Don’t waste time trying to make a part of you that feels unworthy feel worthy… go directly to the knowing of you that sees the unworthy part, and know yourself as that. If you can see the unworthy part, you are more than it as you are the one looking at it.

From this position of knowing yourself, you can bring forth kindness to the parts.

As pure awareness, concepts of worth have no relevance, only knowing resides.

Be aware of how you speak to others.

Be aware to be kind and conscious and responsible.

Be aware to take a step back from your own reactions and give yourself time to respond rather than be driven from somewhere unhealed.

We are all worthy of kindness and understanding.

No self and other. Only awareness.

Your awareness is not a seperate individual awareness that you own, it is the same awareness in me. The same consciousness, the same awareness in all.

The mind is where seperate worlds are formed and lived from.

When we feel ourselves as who we are as awareness itself, only there are we the same.

There in awareness is the truth and heart of the matter. Everything else is just ideas.

And when your ideas are different to another’s ideas, well that is where the human battle of egos begins.

And for what? For an idea?!

‘Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about.’ – Rumi.

Whatever is arising for you, allow yourself to have it.

You don’t have to be a superhero parent/brother/sister/lover/friend.

You don’t have to get everything right.

You don’t have to be a superhero student.

You don’t have to be a superhero at your job.

You don’t have to be a superhero spiritual person.

‘Perfectionism is a destroyer of love’ – Adyashanti.

All we need to learn is simply to be with ourself however we are, with loving compassion; patience, acceptance, kindness and trust.

Like we would for our best friend.

You are enough.

It’s not what we feel that really makes the difference, it’s how we relate with ourselves with how we feel.

Be kind. Allow. Trust.
All is well.

We are more than our feelings, as we are the ones feeling them, having them.

Emotions can never drown us. Because even the feeling of being drowned we are there prior to, and there after it passes.

Realise who you are is more than any and all thought, any and all feelings and more than your physical body.

You are pure awareness.

Often the motivation for self growth is that we seek to be free of our human suffering.

And yes, with consistent intention we can grow into a level of connection with ourself where suffering falls away.

Suffering however is different to having a natural human response to love and loss.

Human emotions in themselves are not suffering.

Suffering arises with the resistance we layer against having our painful feelings; trying no to have them.

Resistance has many guises:
-being so busy all the time we are too caught up to be with ourself.
-addictions.
-isolating ourselves.
-trying to fill the gap with relationships.
-distractions.
-thrill seeking.
-making plenty of other drama to focus on instead.
-playing victim.
-blaming.
-rationalising.
-focusing only on the positive.
-seeking success/perfection.
-being ‘the strong one’.
-being the caretaker for everyone else but ourself.
-insatiable material acquisition.
-holding onto our independence too tightly.
-arguing/fighting.
The list goes on!!!

We try to protect ourselves, but in doing so we clad our own heart with a kind of armour and with that can’t feel fully connected or anchored within.

Spiritual awakening is about learning how to safely peel back the armour and being willing to learn to be with ourself fully and deeply; not to resist our own heart.

Without the resistance there is still the pain of the human journey, but there is not disconnection.