Author: ratnadyer

Happiness comes from your connection to yourself.

Consistent happiness in relationship is about what both bring to it, not what you get from it.

When each of us in relationship takes full responsibility for our own wholeness and happiness, self awareness, communication and our loving consideration of the other, we have a much higher chance of real closeness.

Both sides need to do their work though, or often we can end up with one person carrying more of the other person’s ‘stuff’ and/or growing apart.

Our fantasies around relationships can so often be an external projection and search for what can only be found in any reliable way within you.

Realise love AS your Self first, then we can truely be loving freely and wholly be receiving and received.

There is the reality of the need for learning through relationships as part of our required growth in coming more toward this understanding. As we learn what doesn’t work, we become clearer and more discerning about what we need to listen to. So no relationship is wrong.

However after a time, when we are chasing some dream or deep yearning we will find anyone/anything external can never fill us or satiate us completely. In moments perhaps, but they come and then go. Then we can often spend our time grasping for them again.

When the loving is recognised within your experience as your own heart, there is no need to grasp. Only to enjoy yourself and one another.

Sometimes I feel my heart can only be in wonder and humility at the enormity of the healing journey.

We as humanity suffer so much, we experience so much, and we need so much help.

We need to support each other as much as we can in making our way back home to the light that we are.

May we all walk the path of truth and be aligned with the compass of our heart.

It is more that we need to learn to see what the strings are and sit back and name them with understanding and non-judgment. Then we no longer need to get caught in it.

True change is made not by force, but by observation.

We can talk to the end of the earth and it won’t mean there is experimental understanding or embodied knowing.

The mental field does not actually intersect with the truth of reality.

It’s nice to enjoy spiritual conversations, but sometimes they can be just another way of staying busy in our head and not actually going deeper.

Saying that, they are important for getting us up to the gates.

But if we don’t apply the teachings and actually regularly practice them, they are just useless words.

Why do we on large judge ourselves for our emotions?

Just like the sky has weather clouds that come and go, we too are a vastness that has emotions that move through and happen within us.

It’s where we resist emotions; judge, suppress, avoid or hold onto emotions that our emotional process becomes problematic.

Learning a balanced, healthy non judgmental way of allowing and listening to our emotional body is a powerful way to open our heart to ourselves and others.

The gift of learning to move though tough emotions is immensely expansive for our capacity to love.

Having deep deep tears can become a huge healing.

We are more than our mind. Our mind can only put us into some sort of a concept or idea or image.
But our being was here before any of that.

There is nothing more of a privilege than helping and supporting someone’s life to be better.

There is a deep joy that fills me within feeling I have been able to be truely helpful.

Thank you.

Today I had a test. I was given what I thought was too much for a refund on something. I had a choice to say something indicating the possible mistake or staying quiet and taking the extra money.

My small fear of scarcity self was gleefully telling me I had lucked in, whilst however alongside that my honest inner self was noticing I had to rationalise my actions to smooth over my conscience.

Old fear pattern or new conscious choice?

After something of an inner tussle I spoke up. Turns out the lady was confident I had been given the right amount. So I not only got to keep the money, I also gained the deep joy of feeling in my integrity. I felt I had passed the ‘test’ and felt proud of myself. Small but incredibly significantly triumphant these moments can be.

I realised with really allowing myself to feel the joy of knowing my integrity and a sense of appropriate pride, that it was worth so so much more than the money for sure.

When things didn’t go my way with how I wanted important relationships to work, it forced me to unravel old hurts and unmet expectations I had been carrying since childhood.

In not getting what I wanted externally, I was more and more having to grow my self awareness and connect with my own heart, my strength, my truth and my self compassion that I so much needed.

I am so grateful.

Not getting what I want brought me to surrender to life and has given me my Self; the most precious gift.

Thank you universe for being so wise and not giving me what I thought I wanted! 🤗