A healthy conscience is how your integrity speaks to you to call you into truth.
A berating or guilty critic is how the ego speaks to you in it’s never ending attempt to be good enough.
Which inner voice will you listen to?
There is nothing more than the experience of knowingness.
Relax into yourself, your own knowingness that you exist, that you are present.
As soon as you try to put an image to who you are, you’ve added a layer of clothing.
Who you are is always here; essential, original, simple being.
People often fear too much silence.
Silence has a way of emptying everything out and bringing our hearts to the surface.
Thoughts often scramble to cover our inevitable exquisite emptiness, the cloudless sky of our simple being.
For some reason we fear it will not be enough.
When you observe your thoughts enough to see their fleeting-ness, their unreality, then eventually they can no longer trick you into the corridor of worlds and fears they create.
And what is left is life itself. Reality as it is. The vitality of truth. The breath of trust. The peace of clarity and the honour of grace.
Do not confuse the void of emptiness with the corridor of fears.
Yes on our travels towards healing we must face the corridor of fears squarely in order to see that that is what it is.
But when we do see it clearly, it falls away, and we remain, open like the sky and vast as the universe, without even having to go anywhere.
Affirmations help to anchor an intention and shift your energy into a positive vibration and direction. They are a bridge from old unconscious beliefs, to a new intentional reality.
The trick is to use an affirmation that you actually believe. If you don’t believe it, something in you will not engage.
So for an example: if you are wanting to raise your level of self worth and to believe you are good enough, instead of saying a straight:
‘I am worthy of love and I am good enough’, it would be more useful to say:
‘I am learning that I am worthy of love and that I am good enough’.
Or:
‘Self worth and knowing I am good enough are what I am moving towards’
Repetition is the second key. Just like building muscle, if you only lift weights for two repetitions once a fortnight, it’s not going to have any affect.
Make it easier not to forget putting affirmations in places you can’t help but see them: on post-its on the mirror, on the car dash, reminders that pop up on your phone every day, screen savers etc.
Third key to making affirmations affective is to make sure you keep them fresh by moving their position or changing them up, so you stay alive to them.
Who you truely are has the perfume of beauty itself.
To walk a path of authenticity requires all the courage, commitment, truth and determination in the world. And it will lead you home.
Authenticity is my highest value, as I see it as overarching all values.
We can feel authenticity energetically. We can sense it in a person and it is such an attractive energy.
Be your authentic Self. Be true. Don’t lie to yourself. Listen when you know there are unresolved niggles in you that you are not attending to.
When you listen with self honesty, authenticity with others is a natural by-product.
Authenticity is not something you can create, it’s more that you uncover it by removing what is untrue, and then you can just rest in who you are.
Questioning yourself leads to greater confidence. Doubting yourself undermines confidence.
Be aware of how you relate to yourself.
Self questioning is like self enquiry; being willing to dig a little deeper in yourself, be humble, take responsibility and be open to change.
Self doubt is where thoughts come in in an unkind way that don’t allow you the feeling of being able to trust your intuition and sense of direction.
If you are questioning if you could be a narcissist, then by definition you already aren’t, as self reflection is something narcissists don’t have the capacity to do.
It is important, necessary and healthy thing to do to look at and question yourself in a balanced way.
It is true that each and every one of us has narcissistic traits, as it is a part of the structure of the human ego.
Narcissistic traits does not mean that we are a narcissist. It means we are human, and have the capacity to look at, learn about and grow from our limitations.
You are allowed to be learning and to be human.
If you are struggling with or recovering from a narcissistic relationship, I recommend checking out
‘How to Recover from a Narcissist’ by Lee Harris:
https://youtu.be/DThM8OpPrIk
@leeharrisenergy.
When we have done the work to look with thorough self honesty at our patterns in relationship and make the inner changes we need to take responsibility for, only then are we able to share a truely intimate connection.
Here there is clarity that: I would rather be on my own than in a co-dependent or disconnected relationship.
Do your work. The purpose of life is love. To be as loving as you can. To release that which blocks the flow of your ability to give, receive and be love.
Sometimes learning to love means allowing more space, sometimes it means being willing to come closer.
Sometimes it means learning to be clearer with your truth and say no. Sometimes it means learning to apologise, be humble and release your pride and fixed views.
Whichever direction it needs to move in, we are all moving toward more balance, more love.
RATNA DYER 