Author: ratnadyer

Be kind with each other. We are all sensitive beings. Everyone is more sensitive then they might show or perhaps even be in touch with inside themselves.

We never know just how much our kindness might help someone.

Equally, we never know just how much our lack of awareness around another’s needs or sensitivity might impact them.

I hear a lot of inside stories. People are much more deeply affected and noticing of small things than we are often made privy to.

We can’t take responsibility for someone else’s triggers, however we can take responsibility for our own approach and responses.

If you listen inwardly do you recognise you would come into more of a sense of balance, alignment and rightness if you were to make a bit more effort, take more responsibility and be more prepared to put in the work?

Or would your balance be found by allowing yourself to do less, slow down a bit, ease off, be less cracking the whip on yourself to continually be better?

We can miss the mark by not putting in the necessary effort. We can also just as readily miss the mark by trying too hard.

Lasting happiness comes from a combination of improving, relaxing and appreciating; enjoying what we have and learning to appreciate ourselves with where we are at and appreciate life for life itself.

We can never become happy in a future moment, the present moment is the only space where any joy of life can be experienced.

Happiness is not derived only from gaining more this or being better at that. If we aren’t able to take in our blessings and feel grateful along the way, no attainment is going to make us a happier, fuller person.

Come into this moment and consider what is here right now that you are grateful for. Let yourself feel a fullness inside in the experience of appreciating.

I know for myself, whenever there is an earthquake, I am reminded that I am so grateful for my house, my home, and our town. There is a sense of surrendering that comes over me when I realise there is nothing I can do to change the ultimate plan.

When I look back, I can see that often the most challenging times were when I learnt the most about myself.

Often we need support or guidance to come out of our habitual way of seeing things; to consider things in a new light.

The question is are we truely willing to listen? Especially when it might mean letting go of a treasured point of view.

Life opens up when we let go of only one way having to be right. There’s always more we can learn.

‘Variation is a movement of mindfulness’ – Matt Kahn.

And the one we all know.. variety is the spice of life.

Even if you always dry your left foot first after a shower, change it up and dry the right first. Small variations can be so satisfying.

Or go walking in different places at different times of day. Notice the change in light, the sounds, the scenes.

Enjoy your senses as much as you can.

When all things stop and we sit there, still, silence is the formless ground we find ourself in.

No matter how quiet it may become, we are still there; aware.

When we listen to the sense of our presence/being/existing/awareness, we recognise there is not silence and then a separate us. We are alive inside the silence itself.

“Be inside the silence as silence itself.” – Mooji.

It’s more about letting the noise of different behaviours settle so it can simply reveal itself.

Who you are resides within relaxation. Slow down and let yourself listen.

That classic feeling, of ‘Oh man I thought I had dealt with that!’ An old trigger brings a hurt or trauma to the surface and here it is smacking me in the face again! And worse because my judgement and resistance towards my experience is higher than ever before, because this ain’t meant to be happening in me no more! I thought I had that sorted!

Hmmm. Well some stuff we move past and yet quite a lot of our core ‘stuff’ still sits there, and has the potential to make us vulnerable our whole life. We are human, sensitive beings.

I’m learning that it’s not so much about sorting something and being beyond it affecting me anymore, it’s more about how clearly I see, how compassionately I respond to my process, how willing I am to let go and allow it to move through, and how quickly I can re-align and return to my intention and conscious choice for goodness, gratitude, humbleness and peace.

We can search all of life for information and intellectual knowledge, but nothing will give us true, deep, connected understanding until we go within.

Friends, family and close relationships are super important, and at the same time remember to learn to be your own friend. Learn to listen to yourself and have an inwardly connected, close relationship with yourself. Learn to speak kindly to yourself, like you would for someone you love.

We hope for others to always be there for us when we overlook our own presence, our only constant.

No one can ever be there for you the way you can learn to be with your self.