Author: ratnadyer

Today I cleaned my kitchen.

I have recently taken to doing yoga in the kitchen, as it’s the only wooden floor area big enough, and yoga is oh soooo much better on a wooden floor 🤸🏻‍♀️🧘🏼‍♀️

One thing about yoga is that you see different perspectives and angles in a room than usual. You see the floor close up, the ceiling, and the underside and close up of furniture 😜

And so in the last weeks I have increasingly noticed the fly poo here there and everywhere!.. the marks and stains that build up over time on white cupboards, the filth under the stove and on the stove front etc etc etc.

The analogy came through loud and clear, as after I had started cleaning I kept seeing more and more muck:

The process of cleaning up involves realising how much of a mess things are.

This is also true for the process of gaining self awareness and cleaning up our ‘stuff’. For a while it seems there is just more and more of it as you start to look, and it can feel sometimes overwhelming and hard to grapple with.

However one step at a time things improve.

And at the end of the day, you’re happy with your kitchen 😂🤩🥳🤸🏻‍♀️

Focus on living from a place of heart, a way of being that you value. Creating what you value. Being honest, true and real.

Life is too short to be living a lie or focusing on all the things you don’t like.

Make the most of every moment, to be walking with and toward things you love.

We all start somewhere on our path of healing. And in order to have something of an understanding about the healing journey, we need to be walking it.
There is no one I have ever met that hasn’t been propelled towards healing without experiencing it’s contrast.

Healing starts from some form of wounding. Otherwise why would we need to heal.

And yes we do heal, we change, we grow, and at the same time this does not mean that the wound is absolutely fixed and gone.

It more means that our wounding has taught us the absolute need to have to find our way and to be more gentle inside. It helps us discover the need for more acceptance and compassion and to cultivate patience and trust in the process.

We can’t get rid of our wounding, but we can learn to have a spacious and loving relationship with it.

Our vulnerability continues to keep us humble, open and kind, learning and growing.

There is no such thing as an unwounded healer.

Sometimes we can take things so seriously. Lightness is an essential quality for us to thrive.

Creativity cultivates lightness.
Exercise cultivates lightness.
Good sleep cultivates lightness.
Healthy food cultivates lightness.
Self compassion cultivates lightness.
Bigger picture awareness cultivates lightness.

Learn to choose it.

Learn also to go through any hard stuff that might sit there being avoided and keeping real lightness at a distance because we spend our energy having to suppress ourselves.

And when we can laugh compassionately at our human stuff, what a liberation it can be.

We don’t need to judge so hard.

They can be tiny things, such as watching the birds bounce across the lawn, or feeling the pleasure of the hot water on your skin in the shower, growing pot plants or walking in nature.

What we focus on grows.
What we resist persists.

When we focus on what we don’t want to have, we are living in a way that is generating more and more resistance in our experience and we keep trying to make it different.

When we are doing things we enjoy, we relax.

One of the most powerful keys to healing is kindness.
Kindness within and kindness without.
When we can learn to speak kindly and patiently with ourselves and our learning, we open the pathway for our heart to expand and growth to occur.

We cannot grow if we are caught in judging ourselves.

Self compassion allows us to begin to let go. Showing compassion with others, helps them to know they are safe to be themselves.

Be true. Be kind.
We need kindness.
The world needs kindness.

It is also kind to say no and be clear in our boundaries when we need to, as we can then give ourselves wholeheartedly and honestly with our yes, which is what people actually want.

Allowing ourselves to be who we are, we are bright, unfolding to the sun.

Courage is not about not being afraid. Courage is when you’re prepared to feel the fear and vulnerability honestly and openly.

There is no end to new potential experiences and continuing learning.

Our mind likes to put things in boxes and think that it has everything under control.

Our heart likes to stay awake and open to the moment with wonder and curiosity.

Use your mind, however be awake to when it thinks it already knows, has rigid views on things or fixed ideas with an unwillingness to listen to other.

If we can stay open, these moments are where we might learn something new.

It can be a joy to be wrong!

A way out of suffering is often a motivation which sees us embark on our spiritual journey. We look for relief from our struggles.

What we don’t always understand, is that we can’t ‘get rid’ of our challenging experiences, but we can come into a new way of relating with them.

When we open to our human experience with a yes and lean into life with compassion and a willingness to be here, suffering decreases as our resistance decreases.

If we keep wanting to be lifted out into some unaffected state of grace, we can miss the doorways provided through our human learnings that help us come into the centre of being. When we are willing to receive life, there is a coming home to ourselves with trust, quiet joy and contentment.

We are here and human and in our bodies for a reason: not to get out and away, but to use our gifted life as the way more and more deeply in. So deeply in that there is no more the difference between in and out.