Author: ratnadyer

Include, allow and transcend. Not transcend in order to not have.

The attempt to try to transcend something before we have really allowed it it’s place with some compassion and acknowledgement (either imposing that on ourselves or on another) is a common spiritual trap.

We can try to jump too quickly to.. I’ll be the nice person, the bigger person, take the high road, I won’t be needy, I’ll be all those qualities that make me so kind and so zen…
and yet all the while are we really being honest and loving toward the truth of how we’re feeling?

There can be a whole big ignored/unconscious current alive and well underneath that is anything but zen.

Be aware of spirituality becoming another way to measure yourself; forming a spiritual ego.

We need to learn that all emotions are included in being spiritual, and that it is more about learning to be authentic, honest, true and compassionate with all of our human stuff.

That is more of a spiritual maturity than adhering to some idea of what it means to be beyond that, unaffected or enlightened.

We need to be with people that we just know we are safe to be ourself with.

When this is not happening, we can maybe feel like we have to be careful with how we say things. We might feel we have to in a way try and keep the other happy or not offend them. We might feel a kind of unspoken judgement or envy or need from them. We might feel we would like to ask for something from our side and yet instinctively sense that there’s not space for our needs or that we can’t be heard or received.

When we can fully be ourselves, there is an ease, a freedom, a mutuality, a flow. Each cares equally for the other and yet also doesn’t compromise them self in order to try to please.

We know we are respected and loved. We can be vulnerable and in our heart and we can also be exuberant and wild and fun. We can shine and laugh together.

Remind yourself to stay open, and to have the intention to continue to expand.

God is in the field beyond all ideas or concepts we might have of him/her.

Most often we approach our relationship with God/Spirit/Source/Consciousness/Allah/Buddha/Tao/Jesus/The Universe – whichever name you want to give it (I will use the term God here for the sake of ease) – We approach our relationship with the notion that there is God and there is me.

We have ideas of some kind of form for God, around the world with all cultures we have notions of all kinds.

The fundamental notion of God as something outside of us/other than us is already leading us away from true understanding.

God is infinite. I love these words that I once heard Mooji Baba speak:

“Can you stand outside the infinite?”

If God is infinite how can it be that there is God and then there is me? If there is only the infinite oneness creation, then this duality is actually not reality/right perception.

Only our thought process and concepts of God create this supposed separation. Like a layer of film, thought believes we are outside looking in.

Any thoughts process or concept we have of God, at some point on our spiritual journey, will need to fall away in the seeing and direct knowing and being of oneness consciousness; Self realisation.

No concept/religion/name remains.

We can’t know what will happen from one year to the next. Sometimes even from one week/day/hour/minute to the next.

The nature of life is movement. On a microscopic level, our cells are constantly vibrating and moving. If they become still, there is no life force there.

We cannot make things rigid and still feel fully alive.

And as humans, we try to gain control and a sense of stability and security in the best ways we can. This is great in many ways, and provides a quality of foundation. However sometimes life will send us the unexpected, maybe even a tsunami to wash all we know away. And we are forced to learn to swim again.

We need both flexibility and consistency within the energy of commitment.

Grace comes in this way. Some call it ‘fierce grace’ at times. We can struggle to find the gift. But if we stay open, ask for help and choose to walk the path of truth and the heart, we will find our life expands and we can come to a place of some gratitude and more trust.

True change has to come from within.

Being inspired by someone living the way we feel drawn to, it is so helpful and necessary. We need those guiding lights.

We all know that we are not going to trust or follow someone who says one thing and then acts differently. Someone who expects you to behave a certain way when they themselves are not walking their talk.

Role modelling is incredibly important and powerful.

Just by being our best self we are offering this for others.

We have layers.

Lots of movement on the surface, busy, actively engaged with the world, thrown around and impacted by the weather and conditions.

Deeper currents running underneath, where feelings stored hold a kind of power, or long held desires, directions and expressions move in us to find their way.

The ocean floor, a still calm, quiet vastness, like the centre of our soul. Holding all. Allowing all. Intimately one with every aspect, and yet a serenity untouched.

Remember the depth of our being, the multi-dimensional levels of our being, the layers and levels of our experience.

We are so much more than we appear or anything we might say or do.

Slowing down the busyness, tuning in, we can learn to listen to the different depths and levels of who we are.

When we practice being present, and when we create space in our being by releasing our past traumas, we become more and more alive, spontaneous and connected with life all around us; happening in the only moment that exists – now.

We go searching for ways to be someone or something in the world.

We layer ourselves with costumes and roles and images and ideas; forming an identity; who we think we are.

Then, at a certain point, we find this requires such exhausting hard work to keep living up to, to protect and defend.

This is where life wants us to look within. To lean into the journey of releasing our ego identity. To face our fears that block us from coming home to our heart. To let go.

We forget that simply to be who we truely essentially already are is to give the world the most precious gift.

With guidance we can start to peel back the layers of outgrown costumes and find our Self, already there; ever present and ever perfect.

We can bang our head against the brick wall of someone else’s denial for far too long with the hope of getting through.

The longing to be connected and understood never leaves, however we can come to a place of acceptance that the connection we need is not going to be met through someone unable to hear us.

We can learn to make conscious boundaries; saying no to that vicious cycle, and instead make choices that will nourish us by being with others that are available.

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