Author: ratnadyer

Bring your attention to the resistance and what it is afraid of, and there is where you can start to let go.

We fight with how we feel so often. When we let ourselves go and let the feelings come, it can be such a release.

Sometimes we might need to rage or cry for hours. Sometimes days or weeks, months even. But no matter how big our pain is, when we honestly allow ourselves to fully have it, it will come to an end.

Nothing lasts forever, even our deepest grief. However it will not budge or fully go away if we keep holding it out at arms length.

At some point on our adult journey we will reach a point of choice, where we can step more consciously onto our path of healing.

Here we usually need guidance and support. Here we can start to learn to be more heartful and accepting with ourself.

We can open to cry our heart out honestly, not as a victim but as a sharing of truth, and with this peace can start to come in.

The fight to not feel the bad stuff can come to rest.

Relationships can be super challenging at times. And we can learn so much about ourselves.

It’s when we can really support each others growth in an honest and loving way that we can grow the most.

Unconditional love is not simply something you might have or not have. It is the essence of who we actually ARE as part of the universe. It is the DNA of our soul.

Even when we don’t feel we have unconditional love, it has us. It holds us. Our life unfolds unbrokenly within it.

Happiness comes from your connection to yourself.

Consistent happiness in relationship is about what both bring to it, not what you get from it.

When each of us in relationship takes full responsibility for our own wholeness and happiness, self awareness, communication and our loving consideration of the other, we have a much higher chance of real closeness.

Both sides need to do their work though, or often we can end up with one person carrying more of the other person’s ‘stuff’ and/or growing apart.

Our fantasies around relationships can so often be an external projection and search for what can only be found in any reliable way within you.

Realise love AS your Self first, then we can truely be loving freely and wholly be receiving and received.

There is the reality of the need for learning through relationships as part of our required growth in coming more toward this understanding. As we learn what doesn’t work, we become clearer and more discerning about what we need to listen to. So no relationship is wrong.

However after a time, when we are chasing some dream or deep yearning we will find anyone/anything external can never fill us or satiate us completely. In moments perhaps, but they come and then go. Then we can often spend our time grasping for them again.

When the loving is recognised within your experience as your own heart, there is no need to grasp. Only to enjoy yourself and one another.

Sometimes I feel my heart can only be in wonder and humility at the enormity of the healing journey.

We as humanity suffer so much, we experience so much, and we need so much help.

We need to support each other as much as we can in making our way back home to the light that we are.

May we all walk the path of truth and be aligned with the compass of our heart.

It is more that we need to learn to see what the strings are and sit back and name them with understanding and non-judgment. Then we no longer need to get caught in it.

True change is made not by force, but by observation.

We can talk to the end of the earth and it won’t mean there is experimental understanding or embodied knowing.

The mental field does not actually intersect with the truth of reality.

It’s nice to enjoy spiritual conversations, but sometimes they can be just another way of staying busy in our head and not actually going deeper.

Saying that, they are important for getting us up to the gates.

But if we don’t apply the teachings and actually regularly practice them, they are just useless words.

Why do we on large judge ourselves for our emotions?

Just like the sky has weather clouds that come and go, we too are a vastness that has emotions that move through and happen within us.

It’s where we resist emotions; judge, suppress, avoid or hold onto emotions that our emotional process becomes problematic.

Learning a balanced, healthy non judgmental way of allowing and listening to our emotional body is a powerful way to open our heart to ourselves and others.

The gift of learning to move though tough emotions is immensely expansive for our capacity to love.

Having deep deep tears can become a huge healing.

We are more than our mind. Our mind can only put us into some sort of a concept or idea or image.
But our being was here before any of that.