Author: ratnadyer

No matter what might happen to you or what you might do to cope with your human journey, no thing has the power to take away the core of you.

That core is consciousness itself, here before any event, here after every event. Untouched.

The truth of you is the house of love itself.

So often we seek someone to make us happy, to be the ‘perfect fit’.

Yes relationships are for love, togetherness and happiness, no doubt about it! And at the same time, they are what show up for us where we need to heal ourselves and where we are unable to let love in or to give it.

So often we hit up against these walls in each other and in ourselves, and we interpret it as not the right relationship.

It is helpful to approach relationships with some understanding that they will most certainly show up our hurts and our learning.

When we have a willingness to show up for ourselves and our partner in owning our stuff, being vulnerable and doing the inner work, we can grow.

And when both people are actively engaged in self growth together, then we can turn straw into gold.

If you are speaking with sincerity and loving intent, from your heart and truth; doing your upmost to communicate, and someone tells you that you’re too much, often it’s that their ego feels threatened somehow and they need to defend it and deflect their shadow onto you.

It’s so often that people like you to be strong and in your power, until you confront their ego.

There’s often a need for discernment in communicating the hard stuff, as to someone’s capacity to hear you. We might need to assess whether or not trying further to get through to them will just continue to inflame their stubbornness or not.

It can be so painful to accept the limitation. But it can be more painful to keep having your heart unheard.

Just be sure to give yourself the belief, love and support you need, and not to slip into self doubt through what they might have said to make it about you.

Listen deeply.
Listen within and you can hear the mountain.

If you’re going to defend your right to be yourself, be aware of which ‘self’ it is you are defending.

It’s not always as simple as saying ‘I’m just being myself’. To be able to say this with insight, one first has to be able to identify the levels of themselves.

Know that if you’re acting out of an avoidant or reactive place; defensive, angry, controlling, complaining, blaming etc, this is not ‘being yourself’. This is a part of you that’s taken the stage, and it’s in stepping back into our objective, observing level, the ‘true Awareness you’, that you can come to see and manage these parts, their thoughts, reactions and behaviours, and to make conscious choices around them, rather than being lost in them and acting from them.

With this we can also build a loving, integrated relationship with our parts, we can look after their fears and insecurities and help guide ourselves. Like a parent does for an unaware child.

Do you tend to a more superior type ego or an inferior ego?

There are levels of awareness in our consciousness. There are levels to our self.

Often when we are operating from the level of our ego, the spiritual teachings we need to hear are that which will break our ego down.

And depending on whether you have an ego that tends to take on a self image with a more inferior stance or a self superior stance, this unraveling again will take a different approach.

If we are unconsciously acting from a superior ego, our arrogance, our righteousness and our stubbornness are what need to be dismantled, not defended. The teachings that will be right for someone in this stage are humbling and sometimes almost mortifying. They are intended to unravel the ego’s sense of importance and thinking that it knows. They will rob our ego of the ability to defend anything, because when we are unconsciously identified as ego parts of ourselves, anything we might defend will only be blocking our opening to love.

If we tend to a more inferior ego, a good teaching would be one that helps us see our patterns of thought that undermine ourselves, that put ourselves last or struggle with asserting ourselves. Here we might need to learn to trust more in our goodness, our intuition and our empathetic abilities.

Usually people need a combination of both of these kinds of pointers, because the human psyche has both an inferior and superior ego in differing degrees, as inferior and superior are simply two ends of the same stick…

…Part 3 to follow tomorrow…

The same words of guidance will be received differently depending on where someone is at within themselves.

These days we have a lot of material out there advocating for being yourself, emotional allowing, self love and healthy boundaries.

These are all important learnings. However there is also a complication happening within how different people at different stages in their growth, are receiving, interpreting and applying these different teachings.

In the ‘old days’ spiritual teachings were not so readily available. They were more passed down from a teacher to a student, for where that particular student was at, and for what their next insight needed to be according to their particular level of spiritual maturity.

Nowadays it’s all thrown out there for anyone at any stage of understanding. The same advice that for one person might help generate loving growth, for another could easily, unconsciously be wielded to fortify or defend their ego…

Part 2 to follow tomorrow…

Life will unfold for you when you face it with utmost honesty. Both with yourself and with others.

This is not an easy path. It takes a lot more courage than we think. And often we have to face a lot of our fears.

With this, kindness is indispensable. It softens the judgement that can come at times with self honesty.

We can’t grow from something when we are stuck in the spin self judgment or blame.

The human journey needs as much kindness as it can get.

We need kindness with ourselves, for our past and our mistakes, so we can learn from them.

We need kindness for our present, to allow a flow of loving connection within ourself and with others.

And we need kindness for our vision of the future; being an open heart.

Be kind, be real, be true. It is a gift to all humanity.

Permission Encouragement Power.

Give yourself the PEP you need to commit to the next step on your healing path.

Reality is present before and after any thought we might have of it.

Reality doesn’t change, thoughts and perspectives change.

Learn to listen to life through your senses, awareness, aliveness, presence beyond your thinking mind.
Listen to the space between thoughts.

Peace is here.