Relational healing is a big part of the pathway toward complete spiritual connection.
You can’t be spiritually enlightened and yet not listening to others and their authentic needs. Or yourself & your inter-dependent needs for that matter.
We live in the spiritual AND the physical. They support each other and need each other to be loving to come into wholeness.
Relaxation is not something to find or achieve. It is a sitting back, a letting go into the already quiet presence of our being.
Allowing yourself to feel the beauty of presence and not to have to step into the next thing, this is a wonderful thing to practice. This fills your life with a different quality.
Let yourself enjoy relaxing.
One cannot argue that we wouldn’t benefit from more joy in the world.
Be this conduit, this vessel, this experience of joy. It is not selfishness, it is a path to peace.
It’s helpful to remember when we’re feeling really low, that it will change again.
It’s also a useful contemplation to remember that we also can’t hold to the good moments, that living is about being with both sides of experience.
Everything is impermanent.
Learn to flow.
If we try to skip over something within our growth or our letting go, it will resurface somewhere.
We can’t rush our process.
We can become more consciously aware, and this might help us move through things more quickly, as our will is engaged in staying connected with ourselves so something can work its way through, however it doesn’t mean we get to skip anything. And we can’t make someone else do this, it can only come from within.
Also, be careful to respect other’s processes. We all have our own pace and way. Don’t impose what is right for you on someone else.
When you feel your care deepen.
When you feel your stillness widen.
When you feel your joy lifting.
When you feel your curiosity allowing.
When you feel your presence strengthen.
When you feel your sense of time and measuring slip away.
Do more of whatever it is you’re doing when these things happen, and be aware of your own presence in this space.
Come home to your ever present open heart. Its always and already there, ready to hold you.
No emotion in itself has a low vibration, it’s how you relate to it and what you do with it.
Do you deny, suppress or avoid it? Do you sink and get stuck in it? Do you get sulky with it? Do you look for someone to blame for it?
These responses keep you in a wounded vibration.
Or
Do you allow emotion to be there? Are you authentic with it? Do you let it move through you and let it go? Do you observe and release thoughts that come that might keep you hooked in and reactivating an emotion if it sticks around past it’s time? Do you let it out, be honest with yourself about it and be kind with it?
These responses lead to a healing vibration.
You can’t fully heal without feeling the full spectrum of emotions.
Only you can change how you respond to things in your life.
Response-ability. The ability to respond. That implies choice, very different from reacting.
The way you relate to your experiences comes from inside you.
No one can ultimately make your life better other than yourself.
Anxiety exists only for the future. It is stress about what will happen in the next moment, be that one second away, one hour, one year, or ten years from now.
And then we layer anxiety with anxiety about having anxiety.
Come back to your centre.
There is no anxiety when you are fully present; one with the moment. There is simply experiencing and responding with aliveness to what is.
When anxiety riddles your mind, come back to this moment NOW. Come back to the breathing already happening, come into the sensation of your felt sense of being. Use your physical senses to connect you to reality, present all around you.
Rest in recognising the safety you are.
Sometimes the most challenging part of change is recognising that which we carry with us from the past and keep repeating.
We need to become conscious to our thought patterns and often out-dated safety mechanisms, so we can be prepared to see them for what they are when they rise up.
Life will present us with triggering experiences until we see clearly from what part of us, and our past experiences that our reaction is coming from.
Seeing this, we can learn to care for that part of ourselves differently and support ourself to let an old pattern, and way of relating around it go.
RATNA DYER 