Author: ratnadyer

Sometimes the most challenging part of change is recognising that which we carry with us from the past and keep repeating.

We need to become conscious to our thought patterns and often out-dated safety mechanisms, so we can be prepared to see them for what they are when they rise up.

Life will present us with triggering experiences until we see clearly from what part of us, and our past experiences that our reaction is coming from.

Seeing this, we can learn to care for that part of ourselves differently and support ourself to let an old pattern, and way of relating around it go.

Who are you without your thoughts?
What is your experience when your mind is still?
Where are you when you stop thinking?

There is nothing more liberating than being awake, alive and present beyond all thought.

Being yourself is always enough.

No item, object or image has any effect whatsoever on who you are.

No object can enhance/diminish anything more than the idea you/others might have about your identity.

And that’s all identity is: an idea. Backed up with stories and objects.

Identity is merely a bundle of thoughts that change according to what you attach to it. It is not who you are.

There is no essential truth in identity. The truth you are, is revealed when you strip identity away, and come back to the raw uncovered innate reality of your being; there when you were first born, always present.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting. It’s a part of being human. And working to get the things we want is a great part of the journey and can give great satisfaction.

And yet at some point, we might stop and ask ourselves what do I really want, on a deep level?

We might realise that no matter how much we attain/achieve, something isn’t being filled, and we might see the pattern that our desires are insatiable. They just keep on coming. Fulfil one, happy for a moment or so, and then we’re on to the next one. All with the promise of happiness.

True happiness comes with letting go of the continual need for more, and resting in the bounty of being alive, feeling gratitude fill us, trusting, full of appreciation and moving from inspiration and creativity.

That can only come when we stop and practice truely looking within.

What does it mean to surrender?

It doesn’t mean to give up.
It doesn’t mean to be passive, it is a very engaged process.
It doesn’t mean that a part of you doesn’t still want what you want.

It means recognising that what you are trying to achieve/attain is beyond the ability of the level of your individual personal will.

It is to open your connection to the higher/deeper power of creation, and to trust what life is giving you to work with.

It is to move within and from where you are, rather than chasing a projection of your mind that places you some point ahead of yourself.

It is to accept that we often can’t see the grand design behind our deepening growth and learning.

Surrendering is not a ‘doing’.

Instead of focusing on what you are trying to either achieve or surrender, become aware of WHO it is in you that is struggling with it.

That who is a part of you. Learn to observe that part, like a character on a stage. See it’s tendencies, it’s patterns, it’s fears. Trace it back. See where it’s ways comes from.

A different way to understand how to approach surrendering is, that it is the part of us that is trying to ‘do’ achievement or surrendering that needs to be surrendered. It is believing that we are that very part itself which is at the root of the struggle.

Learn you are more than it.

All the love in the world to all the mothers out there for Mother’s Day today.

And to acknowledge all the grandmothers and great grandmothers and great great great grandmothers.

Your love continues to pass down through generations.

When we do our own inner work, we effect many generations with our love.

Also when we don’t do our inner work, we effect generations with a mix of our love and our unhealed patterns.

Which effect do you most wish to contribute?

Allow life the space to do things for you.

Allow magic to happen.

Synchronicities can occur when you’re not trying to control everything.

When you push too much and try too hard as an ongoing pattern, you can be sure that to soften and relax will give you better results.

Be aware of whether you are in control of your need to work so hard or whether in a way it is in control of you.

Making decisions can be one of the hardest things in life. Especially the bigger decisions.

It is helpful to realise, that in the end, however long it takes, life will bring us to the same point; that is, to come home to the heart of who we are.

Part of finding our way means going left and right, in and out, up and down and trying this and that and then the other thing.

Through this process we learn, we grow, we enjoy, we suffer, we have challenges and successes and so called failures, and yet all in all nothing is wasted as we are living! And we are gaining our clarity of what really matters.

Let life unfold and trust your path. Even if you’re unsure or doubting. It’s all part of the mix.

No one can stop their thoughts. It’s a wasted effort.

It’s important to become aware of your thinking, however meditation is more about a shift of attention from thinking, to recognising yourself as the space in which thinking arises.

You were there before any thought and remain after a thought passes.

Become aware of your beingness in this space, and breathe with this.

We sometimes lose sight of what really matters.

In the end it all comes back to love.

Include yourself in being worthy of kindness and compassion. The way you treat yourself matters.