Author: ratnadyer

Learn to become aware of signs that indicate you’ve become defensive.

Perhaps your voice changes.
Perhaps your body tenses.
Maybe you get angry or emotional.
Maybe you start pointing at the other person.
Or your heart rate increases.

When you get defensive, understand that there is usually something that the other person has touched on, that was already there in you and that you’re judging yourself for.

If we’re not judging ourselves for something, then someone else’s words will not trigger any need to defend anything.

Our being and the knowing of our beingness is present whether we attach any thoughts to it or not.

Stillness is being, alive with an alert, engaged presence. It is the most powerful practice you can do.

When did you last allow yourself to absolutely nothing?
Just to sit.
In stillness.
Connecting with yourself and life itself.

Relational healing is a big part of the pathway toward complete spiritual connection.

You can’t be spiritually enlightened and yet not listening to others and their authentic needs. Or yourself & your inter-dependent needs for that matter.

We live in the spiritual AND the physical. They support each other and need each other to be loving to come into wholeness.

Relaxation is not something to find or achieve. It is a sitting back, a letting go into the already quiet presence of our being.

Allowing yourself to feel the beauty of presence and not to have to step into the next thing, this is a wonderful thing to practice. This fills your life with a different quality.

Let yourself enjoy relaxing.

One cannot argue that we wouldn’t benefit from more joy in the world.

Be this conduit, this vessel, this experience of joy. It is not selfishness, it is a path to peace.

It’s helpful to remember when we’re feeling really low, that it will change again.

It’s also a useful contemplation to remember that we also can’t hold to the good moments, that living is about being with both sides of experience.

Everything is impermanent.

Learn to flow.

If we try to skip over something within our growth or our letting go, it will resurface somewhere.

We can’t rush our process.

We can become more consciously aware, and this might help us move through things more quickly, as our will is engaged in staying connected with ourselves so something can work its way through, however it doesn’t mean we get to skip anything. And we can’t make someone else do this, it can only come from within.

Also, be careful to respect other’s processes. We all have our own pace and way. Don’t impose what is right for you on someone else.

When you feel your care deepen.

When you feel your stillness widen.

When you feel your joy lifting.

When you feel your curiosity allowing.

When you feel your presence strengthen.

When you feel your sense of time and measuring slip away.

Do more of whatever it is you’re doing when these things happen, and be aware of your own presence in this space.

Come home to your ever present open heart. Its always and already there, ready to hold you.

No emotion in itself has a low vibration, it’s how you relate to it and what you do with it.

Do you deny, suppress or avoid it? Do you sink and get stuck in it? Do you get sulky with it? Do you look for someone to blame for it?

These responses keep you in a wounded vibration.

Or

Do you allow emotion to be there? Are you authentic with it? Do you let it move through you and let it go? Do you observe and release thoughts that come that might keep you hooked in and reactivating an emotion if it sticks around past it’s time? Do you let it out, be honest with yourself about it and be kind with it?

These responses lead to a healing vibration.

You can’t fully heal without feeling the full spectrum of emotions.