Author: ratnadyer

Not listening to your inner calling has consequences that lead to suffering.

If you’re not following your truth, what do you really have?

Learning to be kind to ourselves is the most powerful key toward self healing, building self confidence and having better relationships.

When we are judging ourselves for our feelings or our limitations, we can’t receive the learning or compassion that our ‘mistakes’ might teach us.

When we are kind with ourselves we can fortify our capacity to take constructive criticism and gain some ground around things that we know we would like to do better.

With self compassion we have less need to jump to defensiveness and more openness to listen to the truth of others.

In this way, self compassion is anything but selfish.. as it provides a major blessing for our communication in relationships.

Tools to be more kind to yourself:

• Become aware of your self talk and when your inner judge is talking.
• Practice saying affirmations that you can truely start to believe in.
• Remember you are human and have a right to learn.
• Imagine how you would speak to a friend you love about it, and practice bringing that message to yourself.
• Put your hand on your heart with a gentle, caring warmth and acknowledge how you feel.
• Speak your feelings out to the sky, allowing them to be there.
• Have the intention to learn and grow and take responsibility toward being your best self and know this is a process and takes time.

First things first.. become clear on what your truest intentions are.

What is most important to you in your life? What do you value above all else?

What if you had only one year left to live.. what would you want to focus your life on and make sure is way up there in your reality?

To check in and gain some clarity, some simple things you can do to help you access your knowing from a wiser you are:

• Sit silently for 5 mins, listening to how your body feels and your emotions present. Perhaps place your hand on your chest or belly to help you ground.
• Walk at a relaxed pace in nature and pay attention to beauty all around you. Notice the small things.
• Appreciate simple moments, like having a hot shower, a nice cup of tea, a cuddle with your pet. Notice how these things calm and soothe your body.
• Be in your breath for even just one whole complete breath.
• Listen for the subtle sounds all around.
• Stretch and move your body.
• Make sure you get enough sleep.
• Reduce sugar and other junk in your diet.
• Listen to what you enjoy and make sure to include at least one of those things everyday.

Even the cells in our biological being are hardwired for connection. Life exists as inter-connectedness. You are worthy of love. You are love.

Don’t shut yourself off too much. It might keep you safe from being hurt, but disconnection also eats away at your own heart.

Nothing is more important in life than love.

Learning to love and be authentically connected, in the end is all we really want.

This is the nature of life. We cannot ever really hold to anything.

When we do, we are left behind, caught in some past moment that only exists in our memory, our mind.

Life keeps moving; constant impermanence, and at the same time paradoxically it is motionless.

Be in this alive; receiving and letting go flow state of awareness; ever moving ever still.

Here is bliss.

As soon as we might deny our ‘negative’ feelings through overlaying them with positive thinking, we tell our subconscious that something inside is is not allowed and is not acceptable.

What we resist stays and often festers.

True positivity is a state of allowing. Where all feelings can move through and we can love ourselves none the less.

Don’t split yourself in two.
All of you and all of your human experience is lovable.

There is no such thing as one world seen in only one way.

There are thousands, millions, billions of worlds seen through all our different perspectives.

All phenomenal truths are relative. Nothing we can see is fixed and absolute.

Go deeper.
Live honest with yourself.
Look underneath your own surface.
Allow yourself to be real.

Difficult feelings are not the problem, it’s the resistance to them, and then when we try to work on ourselves and not resist, we develop resistance to the resistance.

How do we step back and see from the space of allowing?

We can perhaps consider that all of our stuff is already here, already playing out, already present and therefore on some level of our being, already allowed/accepted.

Yesterday my 93yr old neighbour rang me to tell me his house was going on the market.

He’s lived there for 31yrs. His wife died a couple of months ago, and not long after, he had a fall and went to into respite care, where they told him he’s not allowed to go home and be on his own any longer.

His words were ‘So that is that’.

26 years of marriage and
31yrs of his house and tending their beautiful garden, and now he has to let it all go.

The point is.. in the end, we have to let everything go.

And if we spend our whole life focusing on where we will hopefully get to, we will not see and soak up the joy of life as we are in it.

Don’t miss what you have.

Everyday has beauty. Everyday has happy and sad and good and bad. But everyday is for being alive fully and breathing it in deeply.

Don’t miss simple glories.