No matter how much money you acquire in life, if you have a fear of lack and you haven’t recognised and released your thought wprocess, you will not be free to enjoy true abundance.
Abundance is lived through presence; experiencing the moment fully and being filled with gratitude.
Abundance comes through being happy in our Self and recognising the truth of our connectedness with life and love.
If kindness does not include respect to one’s own boundaries, then it is not true kindness.
True kindness is kind because it honours the needs and truth of all parties.
We can get caught in feeling obliged, afraid of hurting someone, wanting to keep others happy, or that it is ‘easier’ just to give another what they want.
This is often stemming from an unconscious fear of the relationship changing or of being rejected/abandoned.
When we are not being true and say yes when inside something in us knows it’s a no, all that does is enable that kind of relationship dynamic to continue and for authenticity and trust to be stunted. The connection will not flourish.
Everyone has their line, their honest yes and no, the simplicity of the way it naturally is.
Don’t try and muck with this simplicity, just follow. It will lead the way to healthy relationships. This is kindness in action.
Of course there are times a part of us doesn’t want to do something, and yet if it is important a higher us does know it’s what we want as it is our responsibility. Sometimes discerning our inner resistance is important. So we can follow our true yes.
Authenticity is the only way forward.
Life is a learning process.
Allow yourself the right to learn as you go.
I am always here, my feelings change. My feelings do not define me. They can never drown me, as I am here prior to see even the feeling of drowning.
We overlook our own awareness presence and take ourselves to be the content of our experiencing.
We are always and already here as the context for all experiences and all feelings to be had within.
Our true self as consciousness/awareness is beautifully empty of everything and yet everything happens within us.
No judgment can touch you if you don’t buy it.
It all comes back to how you judge yourself and whether you choose to follow those thoughts or not.
How you think others see you is happening in YOUR thought process. It may be part of theirs, it may not be.
What matters is each of us owning and taking responsibility for how we’re thinking and how that feels. Only we can change that for ourselves.
Whether others change or not then is of a lot less consequence, because we come to know our own worth.
Chasing an ideal picture; perfection, knights in shining armour?
We so often want our self perception and our relationships to fulfil all our ideas and expectations around happiness.
We tend to hold a picture of what we think we should live up to and of how our partner should be.
In regards to our impositions on ourself, the true goal is not to fit some picture, but to strip the illusions away to reveal and live our natural self with ease and authenticity.
And with our relationship/s, we learn that others are not there to full-proof meet our expectations and protect us from our fears/hurts/disappointments.
A relationship is there to help you grow into your best and most empowered, loving self.
If you’re not getting your prince/princess charming, it can actually be the universe’s way of helping you search within to build that care and confidence in your own being first.
The fantasy of love will never come in a consistent way from anyone else. And if your core self beliefs and ways of relating with yourself are not at a frequency of care and confidence, then your relationships will reflect this to you.
We attract and are attracted to people that will bring up the very fears/issues we need to see and release; fears that are blocking our heart’s ability to give and receive love.
Of course one should NOT use this as a way of rationalising staying in an abusive relationship. The learning there is simply to leave. In that situation leaving is a critical act of self love.
We grieve for that which we love. And we grieve for that which we didn’t let ourselves love more fully while we could.
Don’t hold back for fear of a broken heart. It’s unfulfilled/broken anyway when you miss the passage of joy.
“You have to keep breaking your heart until it opens” – Rumi.
May we embody and live all that we need to see more of in the world: awareness, responsibility, kindness, honesty, truth, authenticity, humility, grace, gentleness, caring, endurance, love.
May we be the change we wish to see in all humanity.
The most powerful way to affect others is to be a living role model.
If you’re not practicing what you preach, who’s going to take you seriously?
Let yourself sit in stillness.
Let what needs to be felt arise.
Let what needs to be heard in you be heard by you.
Let your body tell you where the letting go can happen.
When we sit with ourself in silence, listening and aware, we cleanse, we clear, we open to life itself.
Our actions are important and say a lot about us and what we value.
However our essential self and that we are worthy of love doesn’t change.
Sometimes we are driven to be productive and useful as a way of being seen as worthy of love and approval.
When this is the case let yourself slow. Do less. Know you are loved and oh so worthy of love, also when you relax and rest.
RATNA DYER 