Author: ratnadyer

Feelings change all the time. We cannot gage our personal growth progress based on something that is like the weather.

But what we can look at is our relationship to our emotions; how honest we are about them with ourselves, how much we judge or suppress them or how allowing and compassionate we are with them.

Coming into a loving, responsible and accepting way of relating with our feelings is an indication of our true growth. Not some idea based on a happy ending.

We think of trying to figure out the truth and understand what it consists of.

However truth is not something we can grasp through the intellect.
It is more that we can recognise it in the experience of simple beingness, life energy, presence.

There is no need to think in order to know you exist. Truth is there before ideas and concepts.

We think we are the ones breathing, but it is stillness breathing, breathing in us.

How do we know the difference between our true heart’s desire and our ego’s never ending wants and needs?

Often our true heart’s desire is more aligned with developing a deeper and longer term inner growth than a short term feel good.

Our heart holds a calling for coming home to ourselves. A calling that outweighs all difficulties we will have to move through along the way.

Life often doesn’t give us what we expect and what we want. We need to learn to see that our attempt to gain happiness and satisfaction from getting life going right (and our relationships being how we want them and having all our problems sorted etc) is unreliable.

Our heart wants to rest in its own knowing. Not chase after some ever moving carrot.

If you’re not getting what you want, perhaps your heart has the opportunity here to open more and to hold you as nothing else ever can.

Our body is constantly holding and experiencing our emotions. Whether we are aware of it or not.

Learning to listen to our body sensations and come more into an embodied way of being enables more inner peace, relaxation and a deepening of connectedness.

Inner body awareness develops self awareness.

It brings a better knowing around how we are really feeling, what we need and how to care for ourselves.

When we are anchored in our body we sense we are stable enough to feel fully and deeply and yet not be overcome.

Learning to listen, you can notice your breathing. How your body moves with your breath. You can feel the clothing on your skin, your feet touching the ground.
Become aware of any tension. You might notice a tightness across the chest or a gripping in the stomach.
Do you clench your jaw?
Are your shoulders lifted?
Is your breath shallow?
Do you frown across your forehead or squint your eyes?

Even in the noticing the letting go and healing can start to occur.

Nothing is outside of infinity.

And as the Divine/source energy/God/consciousness/pure awareness/Spirit/life/reality/the universe (or whatever name you want to give) is infinite, then by definition nothing can be excluded.

You are no less of a spiritual being when you feel angry or sad or anxious. It is more that suffering comes when something in our thinking simply loses sight of the truth of connectedness within what we really are.

Divinity in form.

There is silence at the centre of your being. Untouched, present, serene.

Attuning to the energy of gratitude is the most joyous, humble, wise, nourishing practices one can have.

When we experience true gratitude, we experience a full heart, a happy life, an open channel for life and love.

When you’re feeling low or anxious, try thinking of as many thing as you can for which you are grateful. Speak them out loud to yourself, feel the truth of your appreciation, and after only a few minutes notice your energy shift.

We can be creative about what we are grateful for. Like:
I am grateful there hasn’t been an earthquake today.
I am grateful that I can breathe freely right now.
I am grateful that I have enough awareness to find gratitude right now.
I am grateful for the air and the light and the green and the sea.
I am grateful for my heart beat, for my feet carrying me.
I am grateful for the birds singing, the late afternoon sun, the softness of my puppy’s coat, the clean sheets on my bed and my ability to lie down coz I’m not stuck on a plane having to sleep sitting up.
I am grateful for my cup of tea and icecream.

Anything you can think of!!!

Cultivating gratitude is the most powerful tool for generating abundance in your life.

We can’t heal anyone. Only they can heal themselves, and this requires their will to be actively engaged in doing so. We can support and walk alongside, but we can’t heal them.

We can stay in relationships an awfully long time with the idea that if we love someone long enough and strong enough that they will heal.

Unfortunately this isn’t usually the case. If someone has deep core beliefs around rejection, abandonment and unworthiness, these won’t budge unless they actively seek help and work on themselves.

It can be useful to be aware of your own possible story around why you choose/chose to stay and what your learning around that may be.

At the end of it all, self love is of paramount importance first before anything else. If we are not feeling loved and cared for by our own choices, we are not able to give or role model love so well in other ways.

Self love and self care is not the same as being selfish.

Our ego’s nature is fluctuation, fickleness and comparison. One day we feel nothing can take us down, the next we have cut ourself off at our own knees.

It is an illusion to think we can get ahead of our ego’s game and really find true confidence, perfection and success in this way.

Ego is allowed. It is what it is. A necessary part of our growth.

However deep satisfaction and inner knowing comes through recognition of and residing within that which is unchanging in us, unmeasurable by any mind’s idea.

It is silent. Not competing for space. There all along.