Author: ratnadyer

Attuning to the energy of gratitude is the most joyous, humble, wise, nourishing practices one can have.

When we experience true gratitude, we experience a full heart, a happy life, an open channel for life and love.

When you’re feeling low or anxious, try thinking of as many thing as you can for which you are grateful. Speak them out loud to yourself, feel the truth of your appreciation, and after only a few minutes notice your energy shift.

We can be creative about what we are grateful for. Like:
I am grateful there hasn’t been an earthquake today.
I am grateful that I can breathe freely right now.
I am grateful that I have enough awareness to find gratitude right now.
I am grateful for the air and the light and the green and the sea.
I am grateful for my heart beat, for my feet carrying me.
I am grateful for the birds singing, the late afternoon sun, the softness of my puppy’s coat, the clean sheets on my bed and my ability to lie down coz I’m not stuck on a plane having to sleep sitting up.
I am grateful for my cup of tea and icecream.

Anything you can think of!!!

Cultivating gratitude is the most powerful tool for generating abundance in your life.

We can’t heal anyone. Only they can heal themselves, and this requires their will to be actively engaged in doing so. We can support and walk alongside, but we can’t heal them.

We can stay in relationships an awfully long time with the idea that if we love someone long enough and strong enough that they will heal.

Unfortunately this isn’t usually the case. If someone has deep core beliefs around rejection, abandonment and unworthiness, these won’t budge unless they actively seek help and work on themselves.

It can be useful to be aware of your own possible story around why you choose/chose to stay and what your learning around that may be.

At the end of it all, self love is of paramount importance first before anything else. If we are not feeling loved and cared for by our own choices, we are not able to give or role model love so well in other ways.

Self love and self care is not the same as being selfish.

Our ego’s nature is fluctuation, fickleness and comparison. One day we feel nothing can take us down, the next we have cut ourself off at our own knees.

It is an illusion to think we can get ahead of our ego’s game and really find true confidence, perfection and success in this way.

Ego is allowed. It is what it is. A necessary part of our growth.

However deep satisfaction and inner knowing comes through recognition of and residing within that which is unchanging in us, unmeasurable by any mind’s idea.

It is silent. Not competing for space. There all along.

Often we see how we want things in our relationships to be different. We also sometimes need to learn to listen and focus more appreciation for each other for the ways we do show our love.

The way we show love can be different for each of us. The way we want to be shown love is not necessarily the language our partner speaks.

In a healthy relationship, love is better able to be received when there is respect, allowing, acceptance and trust in what is, rather than conditions and a hankering after how we think it should be.

When our mind is working on overdrive: analysing, calculating, thinking, doubting, questioning, arguing, re-hashing, re-playing, allocating blame, considering all the factors over and over again…

and yet no matter how much thinking we do we can’t find the ‘right way’, the solution or the answer…

Realise that clarity can’t come without space and relaxation for it to reveal itself to us.

We need to slow right down.
We need to come into our body and out of our head.
We need to notice we are breathing.
We need to calm and centre our nervous system.
We need to allow simplicity to share its joy.
We need to connect and listen to our deep heart.
We need to trust the silence.

True heart clarity is not accessible through more thinking. It is available on a deeper/higher level of conscious awareness to the level of thinking.

Dropping into body, allowing emotions to move through, listening to that which is unmoving, we can connect in with inner stillness.

Here, self doubt does not exist. The clarity you seek sits in this silence.

When we walk consciously, with connection to the earth, we feel the sacredness present wherever we are.

Our physical senses keep us anchored in the real. Use them to respond to life from your aliveness to the moment, rather than your thoughts about things.

Love has flow and freedom, allowing and celebration, independence with sharing and togetherness.

Attachment brings fear of loss, betrayal, abandonment and rejection.
Attachment generates need, clinging, grasping/aversion, expectations, power and control struggles.

I don’t know that as humans we are able to have a close, truely connected relationship without having attachment. In my experience they come hand in hand.

It’s not that attachment is bad, in fact it is part of our greatest teacher, as the more attached we are, the more we become reflected with our fears.

And ultimately we are on a journey to learn to release our fear. So it’s all designed perfectly, to help us become aware.

It can just be so hard to trust at times, and to learn to know the difference between love and attachment and to find an inner balance where we can suffer less from our own fears.

Not for the faint hearted.

Part of finding balance can sometimes be to learn to do less and to allow life to show you.

The river keeps flowing whether you’re rowing or not.

It is an art to trust life.

Be love, be peace. It is not something outside us. It is a place within. It is a graceful feeling. It is a blessing to share and walk and live life from this space.

It’s not much good to talk about love and peace if we are not demonstrating it.

Love and peace also includes the authenticity of saying a respectful no when you need to.