Author: ratnadyer

Sometimes we can take things so seriously. Lightness is an essential quality for us to thrive.

Creativity cultivates lightness.
Exercise cultivates lightness.
Good sleep cultivates lightness.
Healthy food cultivates lightness.
Self compassion cultivates lightness.
Bigger picture awareness cultivates lightness.

Learn to choose it.

Learn also to go through any hard stuff that might sit there being avoided and keeping real lightness at a distance because we spend our energy having to suppress ourselves.

And when we can laugh compassionately at our human stuff, what a liberation it can be.

We don’t need to judge so hard.

They can be tiny things, such as watching the birds bounce across the lawn, or feeling the pleasure of the hot water on your skin in the shower, growing pot plants or walking in nature.

What we focus on grows.
What we resist persists.

When we focus on what we don’t want to have, we are living in a way that is generating more and more resistance in our experience and we keep trying to make it different.

When we are doing things we enjoy, we relax.

One of the most powerful keys to healing is kindness.
Kindness within and kindness without.
When we can learn to speak kindly and patiently with ourselves and our learning, we open the pathway for our heart to expand and growth to occur.

We cannot grow if we are caught in judging ourselves.

Self compassion allows us to begin to let go. Showing compassion with others, helps them to know they are safe to be themselves.

Be true. Be kind.
We need kindness.
The world needs kindness.

It is also kind to say no and be clear in our boundaries when we need to, as we can then give ourselves wholeheartedly and honestly with our yes, which is what people actually want.

Allowing ourselves to be who we are, we are bright, unfolding to the sun.

Courage is not about not being afraid. Courage is when you’re prepared to feel the fear and vulnerability honestly and openly.

There is no end to new potential experiences and continuing learning.

Our mind likes to put things in boxes and think that it has everything under control.

Our heart likes to stay awake and open to the moment with wonder and curiosity.

Use your mind, however be awake to when it thinks it already knows, has rigid views on things or fixed ideas with an unwillingness to listen to other.

If we can stay open, these moments are where we might learn something new.

It can be a joy to be wrong!

A way out of suffering is often a motivation which sees us embark on our spiritual journey. We look for relief from our struggles.

What we don’t always understand, is that we can’t ‘get rid’ of our challenging experiences, but we can come into a new way of relating with them.

When we open to our human experience with a yes and lean into life with compassion and a willingness to be here, suffering decreases as our resistance decreases.

If we keep wanting to be lifted out into some unaffected state of grace, we can miss the doorways provided through our human learnings that help us come into the centre of being. When we are willing to receive life, there is a coming home to ourselves with trust, quiet joy and contentment.

We are here and human and in our bodies for a reason: not to get out and away, but to use our gifted life as the way more and more deeply in. So deeply in that there is no more the difference between in and out.

Be kind with each other. We are all sensitive beings. Everyone is more sensitive then they might show or perhaps even be in touch with inside themselves.

We never know just how much our kindness might help someone.

Equally, we never know just how much our lack of awareness around another’s needs or sensitivity might impact them.

I hear a lot of inside stories. People are much more deeply affected and noticing of small things than we are often made privy to.

We can’t take responsibility for someone else’s triggers, however we can take responsibility for our own approach and responses.

If you listen inwardly do you recognise you would come into more of a sense of balance, alignment and rightness if you were to make a bit more effort, take more responsibility and be more prepared to put in the work?

Or would your balance be found by allowing yourself to do less, slow down a bit, ease off, be less cracking the whip on yourself to continually be better?

We can miss the mark by not putting in the necessary effort. We can also just as readily miss the mark by trying too hard.

Lasting happiness comes from a combination of improving, relaxing and appreciating; enjoying what we have and learning to appreciate ourselves with where we are at and appreciate life for life itself.

We can never become happy in a future moment, the present moment is the only space where any joy of life can be experienced.

Happiness is not derived only from gaining more this or being better at that. If we aren’t able to take in our blessings and feel grateful along the way, no attainment is going to make us a happier, fuller person.

Come into this moment and consider what is here right now that you are grateful for. Let yourself feel a fullness inside in the experience of appreciating.

I know for myself, whenever there is an earthquake, I am reminded that I am so grateful for my house, my home, and our town. There is a sense of surrendering that comes over me when I realise there is nothing I can do to change the ultimate plan.