Author: ratnadyer

– Listening to how you feel and allowing your feelings space without judgement.

– Taking care of your physical body.

– Taking time to be still.

– Doing healthy things you enjoy and make you feel good.

– Bringing compassion alongside your inner judge.

– Making yourself a priority or at least putting yourself as first equal.

– Being grateful.

When people say ‘be kind to yourself’ or ‘you’ve got to learn to love yourself’, what do they actually mean????

Here are some ways in which we can actually learn to practice being kinder and more loving with ourself.

Self love is not just some idea out of reach. It’s possible in practical ways, even if we just start small and go bit by bit.

Connecting with the direct knowing of your existence is a doorway to knowing yourself; not as an idea, but through being with the simple sense of ‘I am’.

All ideas are surplus to who you are, they are added. You already ARE before any ideas you might have.

Finding yourself is about shedding all ideas about yourself and coming into what is already present, rather than trying to find ideas that fit best.

When we stop trying to figure out who we are by defining ourselves through our possessions, skills, looks, ideas of perfection or inadequacy, or whatever else we might identify with…life becomes so much nicer!

There’s a part of me that’s scared. And yet a quietness inside that can see her fear, is not inside it and knows all is well.

Often we try to push feeling fear away. Our running from it makes it hang out longer in the shadows, not fully gone.

It will pass more quickly and fully if we first allow it to be there. Then name it. See it. And see that we are also more than it.

Rather than saying:
‘I am afraid’
say:
‘I have fear happening within me right now. I can see it.’

This is a slight shift in language, but an important shift in consciousness.

Maybe when the fear has subsided more, become curious.. take a look by asking who is it in me that gets afraid?

The very act of looking at the fearful part shows that you are not inside the fear. You must be also outside the fear to be able to view it.

This goes for any emotion.

When shed, in time they wash all clean.

‘Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding’. – Khalil Gibran.

Let yourself break open.

It’s not the thing that changes, it’s the lens we’re looking through.

Don’t always believe the way you are thinking about things. One day it’s one way the next day we see it differently.

Learn to hold space around your thoughts and feelings, to listen to the context within which they pass through.

May we all walk the path of truth and be aligned with the compass of our heart.

And say it clearly.

If you are following the truth of your heart then it cannot be that it is wrong for the other person. Even when they may not like it.

When our hearts are open and full we are no longer having to avoid any feeling. This is joy.

I just enjoyed crying my eyes out to a heartfelt film, watching the pains, triumphs and growth of being human.

Love as genuine presence.
Love as deep listening.
Love as sincerity of heart.
Love as absolute integrity and authenticity.
Love as undivided conscious attention.
Love as honesty.
Love as the client’s choice in coming to be to give support and consciousness to oneself.
Love as compassion.
Love as truth.
Love as non-judgement.
Love as acceptance and trust.
Love as true caring.
Love as simply being there.

It’s not rocket science.

That the struggle within where you’re at continues the way it is, or that you will not know who you are or how to be without it?

So often we cling to our known patterns even when they are not working for us. We fear letting go into a place of not knowing.

Learn to lean into not knowing and to stay there for a while bit by bit.

The universe functioned for millions of years without us, so something knows for us and we can practice to hand it over.

We weren’t in control of our conception, our birth, our body’s functioning, the weather, and we’re not in control of when it is our turn to leave our body.

Learning to live in surrender and not resist change.