Author: ratnadyer

The internet and social media are like a giant extension of your own mind; it doesn’t always tell you what is true and helpful, it more often just produces more and more of what you already think and believe.

Be aware of how much your screen usage is in control of you and how much you are in control of your screen usage.

It’s an amazing tool to be used. It’s not good to let it use you.

We have to learn to be with the whole picture. We can’t be happy and free when all the time we are trying to not feel one side of our experience.

It’s understandable of course. No one wants to feel their pain, but sadness is also a doorway to the heart of compassion. And when we deepen into life’s fullness, that is where true joy resides.

Trust is knowing all is well no matter what you are thinking.

Instead of asking life to give you what you think will make you happy, ask life to help you learn to trust.

What we have changes, but if we trust we have inner peace and a deep sense of wellbeing within whatever comes and goes.

Trusting life is more valuable than any possession.

We think of ourself as one person, but when we really break it down we all have multiple parts within us.

For example we have the part that keeps things going, cleans the house and goes to work, while another part all the while feels lonely and perhaps forgotten. And then we have another part that does all it can to keep the lonely one’s difficult feelings at bay by being super busy or using some kind of distraction or addiction. Then we have a part that wants to have a voice and a part that wants to stay undetected and safe. We have a part that wants to seek help and a part that doesn’t. A part that wants to be close and a part that fears rejection/abandonment. Then we have a part that is so often critical and judging ourselves and our various parts.

We have multiple parts.

While the adult you might be ok with something, your child part might have different feelings.

Start to learn to listen for the vulnerable parts within you and care as you would for someone you love. The adult you always knows how to look after the little one.

People are often afraid of too much silence. Like their loneliness, anxiety, feelings of rejection or lack of support are going to get louder if they don’t fill the silence with sound.

Often silence and stillness does allow space for unhealed stuff to arise with the opportunity be released, and this can often be scary and challenging. But this work must be done at some stage. We can’t keep running from our tough stuff forever.

And then, when we’ve sat with ourselves and paid enough loving attention to our own hearts, we can then taste the deliciousness of our inner silence much more readily.

Silence is an ever present doorway into self. Into the depths of now. Into the grace of the universe and the dancing of the stars.

Let yourself learn to lean into it. Let the silence become bright and clear. Let yourself recognise it’s immense gift.

Silence is the seamless truth of our soul.

Life is too short to spend time with people who don’t treat you right. We deserve love and respect and kindness.

Find people that are good to their core and be sure to keep them in your life.

Good loving company is one of the greatest gifts.

True peace is present even under the loudest sound.

– Listening to how you feel and allowing your feelings space without judgement.

– Taking care of your physical body.

– Taking time to be still.

– Doing healthy things you enjoy and make you feel good.

– Bringing compassion alongside your inner judge.

– Making yourself a priority or at least putting yourself as first equal.

– Being grateful.

When people say ‘be kind to yourself’ or ‘you’ve got to learn to love yourself’, what do they actually mean????

Here are some ways in which we can actually learn to practice being kinder and more loving with ourself.

Self love is not just some idea out of reach. It’s possible in practical ways, even if we just start small and go bit by bit.

Connecting with the direct knowing of your existence is a doorway to knowing yourself; not as an idea, but through being with the simple sense of ‘I am’.

All ideas are surplus to who you are, they are added. You already ARE before any ideas you might have.

Finding yourself is about shedding all ideas about yourself and coming into what is already present, rather than trying to find ideas that fit best.

When we stop trying to figure out who we are by defining ourselves through our possessions, skills, looks, ideas of perfection or inadequacy, or whatever else we might identify with…life becomes so much nicer!

There’s a part of me that’s scared. And yet a quietness inside that can see her fear, is not inside it and knows all is well.

Often we try to push feeling fear away. Our running from it makes it hang out longer in the shadows, not fully gone.

It will pass more quickly and fully if we first allow it to be there. Then name it. See it. And see that we are also more than it.

Rather than saying:
‘I am afraid’
say:
‘I have fear happening within me right now. I can see it.’

This is a slight shift in language, but an important shift in consciousness.

Maybe when the fear has subsided more, become curious.. take a look by asking who is it in me that gets afraid?

The very act of looking at the fearful part shows that you are not inside the fear. You must be also outside the fear to be able to view it.

This goes for any emotion.